Men just love to be touched – Don’t we?


It frustrates me that I so often hear people accuse men of only being interested in one thing, Sex! But it is so not true, yes men do love sex, that’s what biologically we are programmed to do, have sex and make babies at every opportunity  and so our bodies and brains are designed to react to any potential carnal prospect whenever they arise. However what most people don’t realize and I even include many men in this, is that most men 
love physical intimate touch as much as the sex and in fact many men can’t perform as confidently as they want to if they do not feel an intimate conection with thier partner (be it female or male)

man to man massage

There is absolutely no doubt in my mind that the adage “women have a higher threshold of pain than men” is correct, childbirth makes this necessary but I would then go on to say “Men have a lower threshold of pleasure than women” by this I mean that having given now over 5000 sensual massages to men and some 200 to women I can confidently say that in the arousal stakes male bodies generally react and arouse faster to the touch than female bodies.

With men I find that it is only after about 5-10 minutes into the massage that I begin to see and often hear the evidence of arousal. Gentle moans or movements of the body usually show this and as the massage unfolds so the man will become even more aroused. The bodily reactions to my touch on the male body are immediate, when I stroke the back, scratch my nails on his bum or inner thighs or even simply massage his scalp, all of this will make him spontaneously respond with pleasurable sounds or movement. But more than this as the massage unfolds and the Oxytocin hormone floods the body as well as his response of arousal becomes evident so does his need for connection. Simlar in prupose to nature programming pain thresholds to be be higher for women, I believe it is this need and desire for intimate touch has also been programmed in to male physilogy and psychology. No his hand reaching out to touch you is not a predatory sexual approach it is more a genuine need to connect and receive approval. He needs to know you accept him and acknowledging his touch and particularly in the more intimate private areas, when touched and caressed there will indicate  to him a complete acceptance. My expereinece when giving male-to-male massage the effect touching and stroking  his balls produces not an erotic response but much more creating a bonding effect. In female to male sensual massage the man touching the female masseur  is usually seen as a sexual approcah but again I belive this is as much about acceptance and approval. When aman feel this acceptance and approval he naturall becomes even more aroused. So guys stand up and be heard, dont let the world belive you spend you time a simmereing sexual predator, exolain to your partner, masseur, escort that you DO like to be stroked, tickled, touched , massaaged and that when you reach out to them that this is not a gruubby grab but a tender meaningful touch and the more intimate is can be the acceprede and relaxed you will be.

I often say, if I went to stand in Trafalgar Square with a placard offering the men the option of taking either a free 5 minute F*** or a free 90 minute full body sensual massage to include manual orgasm, I am pretty certain that most men, particularly those over 25yrs would go for 90 minutes of intimate arousing touch.

erotic massage for women

Demure Debutante or Erotic Time Bomb

When I give a sensual massage to a female client the response  to my touch is much slower and sedate. The female who immediately dosplays a response is the exception as usually it is about 30 minutes in to the massage before I begin to witness the effects of my touch. Even at this point it is gradual, maybe some movement and moans ut t is not until the full erotic stimulation  takes place that I see the “Flip” when the demure deb explodes in to the erotic animal.   Again this is proof of the effect of the Oxytocin at work still causing an arousal process but when this fab hormone is released into the female body it creates at first a wariness a “I like whet you are doing but let me check you out first” feeling, when this passes, if my touch has been accepted and the female client feels safe, decorum deserts, reticance rolls away and instead the primal energies explode on to the massage table.

Don’t let it ever be said that women are less sexual than men and if you do believe it is men who hold the erotic trump card you will be wrong. It has to be said that after giving some 200 sensual massages to women, I am still in awe of the expereinece. Like a horseman controlling his beutiful beast, once the female lets her 21st centuray controls fall away to reveal her primal sexual power, I am straining at the rains to steer her over the waves of sensation until she  evertaully is spent and rests.