Improving sexual performance and overcoming fears around physical intimacy and sex.
I trained in therapeutic and Swedish massage in 1995, and since then I have given over 7,000 hours of therapeutic and sensual massage. In 2010 I completed a two-year training in Psychosexual and Relationship Counselling and in 2011 I studied the Imago relationship process. Rather than offer these skills independently I saw a benefit to combining both my knowledge and my body work skills to create an integrative treatment that could support men, women, and couples who were experiencing sexual performance problems. I called this treatment Psycho-Sensual Therapy.
In the first part of the treatment, the client and I explore what underlying emotional influences may be causing the intimacy or sexual issue. I then give to the client a clearer understanding of where these feelings and fears come from and then suggest new thoughts behaviours to implement to lessen, even remove their old reactions completely.
So the client can immediately experience the changes in their behaviour, in the second part of the treatment, the sensual massage is given. The touch reduces any tension or anxiety and as their body responds the natural arousal responses will trigger. But this time with the new thought strategies now intervening they will sense a change in how they feel. As their feelings become more positive so their bodies will arouse even more to the point that they may experience a complete turn around on the problem.
After the treatment time is left to discuss what was noticed
For men the Psycho-Sensual treatment can help with:
- erectile dysfunction
- premature ejaculation
- inability to orgasm
- understanding and embracing same-sex attraction
- fear of intimacy
- lack of sexual confidence
- poor sexual expertise
- improving sexual performance
For women the Psycho-Sensual treatment can help with:
- sexual frustration & exploration
- loss of libido
- sensual exploration
- inability to orgasm
- overcoming sexual fears
- overcoming cultural or religious sexual programming
- improving sexual confidence
- fear of sexual intimacy
For couples as well as the above the Psycho-Sensual treatment can help with:
- improving sexual communication & joint exploration
- sexual imbalance within the relationship
- bringing more intimacy into the sexual relationship
- enhancing foreplay skills
- re-energising the mid-life sex life
- teach couples new ways to include sexual intimacy into their relationship
A Psycho-Sensual massage appointment usually begins with the client contacting me by email or phone to explain their issue or situation. After a preliminary exchange of information during which time I can begin to understand the client’s needs and they get to ask questions about the treatment, an appointment will be arranged. An appointment is 3 hours. The first hour is a conversation when the client explains in more details their challenge or requirement. Once I understand this I can get to unravel the deeper psychological influences that may be causing the blockage, fear or fantasy. Awareness is always the first step to healing and so once the client becomes clearer on the emotional drivers that maybe at the core, so the healing begins.
The sensual massage then follows and this is usually a 75 minute massage which will focus on the particular area that has been revealed. For example if a female client who is having problems reaching orgasm the massage will initially be relaxing and calming allowing her mind to rest and trust. Once this has been achieved then the more sensual strokes of the massage are integrated to bring on arousal and hopefully to eventual orgasm. An example of a male client might be a man with erectile frustrations or spontaneous ejaculation. Again the massage will be created to calm the receiver so that anxiety is lessened to show that without stress the body behaves better and when the arousal is integrated normal erection can happen ( or maybe partial if influenced by a health condition such as diabetes). For spontaneous ejaculation often simply the fact that the situation is aware of both the stress in the receiver will be lessened, quite simply a problem shared is a problem halved. This plus incorporating some cognitive behavioural techniques that can be practiced during the massage go a long way to managing the ejaculation.
Following the massage treatment, a further 45 minutes is put aside to discus the whole experience. Check the results and discus any emotional aspects that “came up” during the massage that may reveal where the anxiety is originating from.
Often one appointment can kick start a healing, however, I do recommend a series of three since the second and third appointment enables the treatments to go even deeper into re-wiring the redundant behavioural process that has been restricting the client’s sexual satisfaction.
Click Here to read Charlotte’s Diary of her Psycho-Sensual treatment for overcoming her fears of intimacy and sex.
Cost of Psycho-Sensual Treatments
Individual 3-hour Appointment – £300
Couple 4-hour Appointment – £375
Series of 3 Appointments
3 x Individual 3-hour – £720
3 x Couple 4-hour – £900
(all appointments to be taken within 3 months, no refund if not all taken)
Booking a Psycho -Sensual Treatment
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Call Colin on 07966 522696
Lucy – May 2016
Thank you for the Kama Sutra Massage it was something I have never experienced before. Words can’t describe how I feel, but it was amazing. I feel that there is so much more to learn, of which I may have been missing out on.
Rachel – May 2016
I wanted to drop you a line about my session last week. To you, the work you do probably sits somewhere between a job and a vocation. To me and I’m sure many others, it feels like a gift. You were so positive and insightful about what was going on. What you said and what you did was meaningful and delicious in equal measure.
Tanya – March 2016
I wanted to thank you and of course Ali, for an amazing experience last night, and for all of our sessions together of the past couple of months.
Finding myself again has been a long journey, but I am so very grateful that you have become part of it. From my first visit filled with pure trepidation to last night’s incredible experience of just letting go and having you both take me on an extraordinary ride of pleasure, has been the most wonderful gift.
What you do, and what you give of yourself, is so rare. I shall have to thank my hairdresser for giving me that complimentary copy of Cosmopolitan! As I said last night there have been only three occasions in my life where I’ve read something and felt that I ‘needed’ to do that. I’m glad I trusted that gut feeling and entered into your world of complete freedom.
The space you have created is one of complete warmth, understanding, compassion, and a true place to allow us to be who we are meant to be. I have always found it difficult to trust people but you have shown me that I am able to let go, relax, hand over the control to someone else, to just ‘be’ and enjoy. And with that, not only have we broken through the block of me never having been able to orgasm with anyone, but we have conquered my severe fear of penetration to being able to thoroughly enjoy sex without pain, delighted in the primal rawness on natural sexual arousal Long may this journey of free exploration and sexual pleasure continue! You really have allowed me to find a part of me I thought I’d never have. Truly a huge thank you.
Eloise – January 2016
It was an amazing erotic experience and I orgasmed for the first time without using a vibrator
Sheila – December 2015
I am celebrating the feeling that despite the changes my body has gone through because of my age at 55 I am still a sensual woman. My afternoon with Colin was amazing and far exceeded expectation. My husband and I are over the moon.
Caroline – December 2015
It was a very pleasurable experience. Colin made me feel at ease during the entire visit. My husband actually booked the Kama Sutra massage for me as a gift and preferred to not be a part of the treatment. By sharing with my husband the details of my visit with Colin our sexual relationship has improved but more importantly my confidence in myself and my sexuality has increased. I encourage you to take some time with Colin and focus on you and your needs as he will. I will definitely book another visit with him the next time we are in London!
Janet – November 2015
I am grateful that I saw the article in Cosmopolitan magazine, as otherwise I would never have come across the services provided by Colin. However I felt it important to do my own research and speak to Colin prior to booking an appointment, and Colin was most helpful on the telephone and put my mind at rest in terms of my initial apprehension. I cannot put into words how good I found the experience of the Kama Sutra massages that I received (I have had two so far). The venue was easy to find / access, and Colin was very welcoming and quickly put me at my ease. Having previously provided my preferences, this also helped me to feel more at ease and relaxed. The massage was relaxing and soothed my tense shoulders. It was also intimate, sensual and erotic and it felt liberating to be the centre of attention and allow myself to receive this treatment. Juggling an often stressful and demanding job, alongside busy home and family commitments, this was my special time.
Following the massage I could really sense the rejuvenating and therapeutic effects. Physically, my body felt less tense and I could feel the benefits of the massage oil. Emotionally and mentally I felt happier and less stressed. Being prone to slight depression at times, this positive impact is very important. For example, the experience seemed to give me a clearer and improved sense of perspective relating to my work, and helped to reinforce a positive attitude. My relationship with my partner has also benefited, as previously I was often not in a position physically or mentally to become intimate. Recently our sex life has started to improve. However, equally as important, as I am generally in a better state mentally, our communication has improved and we are both happier in each others company.For me personally, I feel that this sort of massage will be a very beneficial part of an overall plan to improve my health and well-being.
Louise – June 2015
I am not sure I have the words to do justice to just how empowered I have been since my visit.
Emotionally I have now for the first time in about 7 years put myself back as my priority. I have been motivated to put changes in place after being made to feel that I am important. My self esteem and confidence have been boosted and it’s been noticed by friends. As someone who is still on a weightloss journey this has been an amazing boost. The non-sensual part of the massage has had lasting effect both my neck & shoulders feel new still nearly a month on. The most empowering part of the experience was the release of frustration both physically, sexually and emotionally – I let down barriers and put closure to an important chapter of my life- something I could not have done if I was ill at ease. In short, visiting Colin has been the best thing I have done this year. I shall be back soon.
Alice & Simon – April 2015 (Alice & Simon are a couple in their early 30’s)
I definitely had a fantastic experience last week and this has carried through to our life at home. It’s early days yet but we are having much more fun in the bedroom, more frequently than before. I feel like my focus has been lifted away from pregnancy and is back onto having a good time with my husband. I also feel like I’ve been given permission to be more sexual and more demanding, which is something I didn’t really realise I needed. All in all, it was a hugely worthwhile session and I’d love to come back for another massage at some point in the future.
Mark – August 2014
Prior to meeting Colin, I was never really relaxed when engaging women in foreplay and quite literally did not know what to do. Sex was a bit hit and miss for me because of this problem, which I have had for over 16 years.
In my meeting with Colin, he proceeded to build my confidence by explaining my thinking and behaviour. We discussed my relationships with my partner and other partners and discussed how my childhood would have affected the person who I am today, especially in relation to sex. These personal revelations, his sensual massage techniques along with his insight into the mechanics of the female body, it’s arousal process, the psychology of the female mind and what really turns women on, all contributed to saving my love life.
My 1 day session with Colin quite literally changed my life for the better! Sex is now something I look forward to and is no longer an experience I try to avoid or one in which I am worried about.
Colin is without doubt both an excellent Sex & Relationship Mentor and an excellent Sensual Massage Teacher – He well deserves an award for his services.
Mary – November 2014
I have had two simply wonderful experiences with Colin and am longing for more. I don’t know if my story is typical or not. I bring rather complex baggage with me: very happily married, low libido, orgasmic difficulties, a lifetime of over-controlling emotions and an utter inability to talk about sex. A major health scare a few years ago made me abruptly feel that I didn’t want to die without having had an orgasm – but what do I do about it? I had read about sensual massage and had tried it once before, about a year ago, but although I like the practitioner it did nothing for me. Worrying. Thinking again, recently, that I should perhaps give it another go, I found Colin quite by accident.
Why did I pursue it? – the answer is because everything from him that I read, and subsequently experienced, was entirely reassuring on just about every level. It’s a daunting prospect to turn upon the doorstep of a total stranger essentially offering him your body. Somehow the moment he answered the bell I knew it would be alright. Firstly his personality – quietly calm, warm, professional, entirely reassuring, entirely understanding, entirely non-judgmental, not asking any questions. Then – oh! – the sublime touch: he comforted me, relaxed me, took me places I needed to explore, and showed me how normal it all was. I almost cried in his arms afterwards. Afterwards there is companionship, concern, interest, no feeling of being rushed out of the place. And the flat is lovely – warm, spacious, tempting. It’s expensive, I suppose, but life is short and why deny oneself…
Sana – September 2014
The massage environment is clean, aromatic and tranquil. He held the space beautifully, guiding me towards feeling trust. I felt like the time was special and tailored just for me. Colin has a relaxed and respectful approach which was completely in harmony with my needs. He awakened my body. He gave me exciting sensual surprises, and security, which gently nurtured all my potential for love, life, joy and healing.
Alessandro & Maria – September 2013
Thank you very much for your professionalism and experienced expertise.Your exquisite professional demeanor made it possible for my wife to allow herself to receive an incredible intimate sensual massage. Me being there standing by and later participating in the session made it even more enjoyable and exciting for both of us as a couple and individually. Thank you again and look forward to repeat it when possible.