Questions I am often asked.
- What is a sensual massage?
- Is sensual massage similar to tantric massage?
- Is it erotic? Is it sexual? Is it a proper massage?
- Will it be good for me?
- Where can I get the best erotic massage in London?
A sensual massage, like a tantric massage should be a massage given with a genuine sense of care and intimacy that involves intentional arousal of the body often resulting in orgasm. Both a sensual massage and tantric massage are physical and emotional experiences. The main difference between a sensual massage and a tantric massage is that in the latter spiritual aspects are usually included such as chanting rituals, deep breathing exercises and often there is a rule of non-intimate contact with the giver. Whereas a sensual massage follows a more humanistic process and concentrates more on giving the receiver an authentic full body therapeutic massage with that combines traditional massage strokes with intentional arousing techniques aimed to slowly relax and simultaneously arouse the receiver. Other than occasional instructions the massage is usually given in silence but natural sounds of arousal are encouraged. In a sensual massage, the masseur is usually naked when giving the massage and is usually comfortable to receive reciprocal body to body touch.
All sensual masseurs will have their personal interpretation of what a sensual massage should include. Generally, it should be founded upon a high-quality therapeutic massage that can be given firmly to work the muscles or gently to promote relaxation or a combination of both. It should be intentionally arousing and include light touch with fingers and nails all over the body including the hand’s feet and head as well as the genitals and bum. A good sensual masseur should be able to build the arousal slowly throughout the whole treatment, to seduce the body and thus to cause the receiver’s mind to relax and focus solely on the touch. It should be an experience that is exciting and stimulating: two human beings sharing a dance of erotic intimacy, the extent of which is left to the chemistry and energy of the moment.
Why do we love to be touched?
Without a shadow of doubt receiving intimate, sensual touch is one of the most pleasant sensations that a person can experience. The sense of touch is a vital part of the human condition and is arguably one of our earliest forms of communication. It is accepted that both our physiology and neurology are specifically designed to facilitate it and when a person is touched it also has a profound effect on our psychology. A slap given with aggression can hurt and indicate anger causing us to feel fear or anger in return. A firm hand on the shoulder or back will give us a feeling of friendship or support. Intimate, caring touch, particularly when combined with stimulating arousal can create a feeling of trust and closeness, a factor that is essential in the bonding of human relationships and thus the continuation of the species.
In the beginning
From our earliest Homo Sapiens ancestors who lived 250,000 years ago to probably as recent as 5000 years ago, tactile intimate touch between humans would almost certainly have been offered and received unconditionally. It would be given without cultural, religious or social controls and probably not seen solely as sexual communication but also as a system to establish both mixed and same sex cooperation. It would have stimulated group security and collaboration, ensuring in times of danger and stress, the support between one human to another. It would have helped determine hierarchy, established trusting relationships, promote teamwork and loving bonds.
Not much has changed in our biology since those early times, and for most of us, the desire and pleasure to be touched by another is still very much within us. When we are touched the skin receptors pass the response information through to the central nervous system which in turn influences the autonomic nervous system. The autonomic nervous system connects to the deepest and most ancient part of our brain known as the Stem or Reptilian brain. This ancient part of the brain can be traced back to over 200 million years of mammal evolution. It is concerned with our most basic primary needs such as survival, physical maintenance, hoarding, dominance, preening and mating and from these basic urges activate the emotions of love, hate, fear, lust, and contentment.
In early man, the distinction of intimate behaviour being appropriate or inappropriate would not have existed; there would have been no social, cultural or religious rules controlling our natural desires and need for intimate touch. Our behaviour would be instinctual, when hungry; we would look for food. When under threat; we fought or ran and when in need of a sense of belonging; we would have sought intimacy from other humans. There is no greater affirmation of an individual’s acceptance than to touch and be touched intimately, to care and be cared for, without condition, expectation or obligation.
Sensual Massage is an ancient natural medicine for today’s stressful times
By providing a person with a non-judgmental, honest, open environment where it is not only OK to feel arousal but appropriate, the sensual massage is probably one of the most fulfilling experiences a person can have, enabling both the body and mind to relax in a way that regular massage does not. By reducing tension and stress or an anxiety of the body, the mind remains calm. As the body becomes more sensually aroused the sensory messages transmitting from the skin and erogenous areas reaffirm the mind that we are safe. Hormones such as oxytocin, progesterone and testosterone are released causing us our muscles to relax; the mind falls into a subconscious state, and for a few hours we can literally exist in the “moment.”
Who can benefit from having a sensual massage?
Everyone, but, of course, since we are all individuals each with a unique life experience and lifestyle the benefit can vary from person to person. For many the massage can be a glorious discovery of escapism, for others, it can be a place to release the tension of a hectic life, for some it can be about exploration of the self, one’s sensuality and sexuality. It can also be very beneficial for those experiencing sexual anxieties and performance problems.
In men particularly, it can simply be about male to male bonding, or it can help with overcoming erectile issues, premature ejaculation, sexuality exploration, loss of libido, fear of intimacy. For women, the massage can be about having the opportunity to have their body physically seduced and stimulated without feeling self-conscious or that they may be judged or expected to perform in a particular way sexually. For couples, it is a wonderful way to reignite the sexual relationship by learning now skills to practice on one another. It can be given as a gift by one partner to the other to let them experience another person’s touch without threatening the relationship.
Whoever is receiving the massage it will be an experience that is profound and revolutionary We live in a time when there is so much controlled, and much is expected of us. By having a sensual massage, we return to our primal instincts and our primal desires.
Sensual massage is ultimately about caring for oneself through another person’s energy and physical skills. Arousal and stimulation is an essential part of the massage, but orgasm is optional but can also be an important part of the process since following the orgasm the feelings of relaxation and wellbeing can be profound.
How can I tell a good sensual massage therapist
The therapist should be professional in style and approach inspiring trust and a sense of integrity in the client. The treatment area should be warm, clean, comfortable and welcoming. The therapist should take the time to explain the process of the massage and answer any questions that the client may have.The massage should include both therapeutic massage of the whole body as well as intimate, sensual, arousing massage of the erogenous and genital areas.The massage should be caring and meaningful with the therapist inspiring a sense of genuine “love” for what they do and to whom they do it too. The therapist should be able to work intuitively understanding the client’s specific needs but at the same time making clear their own personal physical boundaries.
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