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How I Help Men Improve Their Sexual Performance—Without Rushing to Penetration
By Colin Richards, Intimacy Coach at Intimacy Matters
Over the years, working closely with men who are curious, conscious, and ready to become better lovers, I’ve come to understand something very simple—but incredibly powerful:
Great sex doesn’t begin with penetration, and it certainly doesn’t end with it.
Whether I’m coaching a man in a long-term relationship or helping someone navigate a new connection, one message I return to again and again is this: slow down and pay attention. If you want to improve your sexual performance—not just technically, but erotically, emotionally, and energetically—start with how you touch, how you listen, and how you respond to her pleasure.
It’s in that space, not in the rush to climax, where the magic happens.
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Let’s Redefine What “Performance” Actually Means
There’s a performance script that so many men have grown up with. You know it: get hard, last long, give her an orgasm (preferably during penetration), and hold it together while doing it. If you stumble anywhere along that tightrope—soften too soon, come too quickly, can’t “finish the job”—you fear you’ve failed.
But that script is false. I see it every day in the couples I support, the men I coach, and the honest, raw conversations we share. The truth is, most women don’t climax through penetration alone. Most desire something far deeper: attention, creativity, sensual tension, and erotic presence.
This is where a whole new kind of male sexual confidence can emerge—rooted not in performance pressure, but in mastery of touch, erotic pacing, and deep connection.
The Sensual Massage: A Game-Changer Between the First Date and Full Sex
One of the most powerful things I teach men is how to give a sensual, arousing, and connected massage. And not as some “add-on” to sex—but as an erotic practice in its own right.
Sensual massage gives you a beautiful, respectful way to connect physically without jumping straight into full intercourse. It’s the perfect bridge—especially early in a relationship. It lets you explore one another’s bodies, build desire, and create trust without the emotional complexity that sex too soon can sometimes introduce.
I often guide couples in making massage a kind of shared ritual—setting the space with music, candles, a warm towel, and natural oils. There’s no agenda. Just touch, breath, and curiosity.
You don’t need to be a masseur. You need to be present. Your hands become the language of your desire. And slowly, as you move from her shoulders to her hips, her back to her inner thighs, you begin to awaken her arousal—not through friction, but through finesse.
When You Take the Focus Off Penetration, Everything Opens Up
When a man gives himself permission to stop chasing penetration as the goal, something beautiful happens. His whole body relaxes. He becomes more available—not just physically, but emotionally. And ironically, that’s when erections become stronger and more consistent. Arousal flows more freely when it’s not tied to fear.
This is also where oral sex and manual stimulation become invaluable. I coach men in how to take their time—how to enjoy giving, how to receive feedback without defensiveness, and how to build toward her orgasm not as a target, but as a celebration of trust and arousal.
These are skills that every man can learn. They’re not advanced techniques or secret tricks—they’re acts of generous masculinity. When you touch a woman in this way, you’re not trying to “get somewhere.” You’re already there, fully present, fully engaged, fully connected.
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Tech That Supports, Not Replaces: How I Use the FirmTech Ring
Now, here’s something I’ve started integrating into my own life and recommending to clients—the FirmTech Performance Ring. It’s been called the “Fitbit for your penis,” and while that might sound clinical, it’s actually a beautifully supportive tool for men who want to improve their sexual health and understand their bodies more intimately.
The ring tracks your erection quality, duration, and frequency, even while you sleep. It connects to an app that gives you feedback—not to judge you, but to help you observe. I use it to see what affects my arousal—stress, sleep, exercise, diet, and, most importantly, connection. To learn more about Sex Tech Fit Bit Cock Ring and how it can help men maintain erections and manage health CLICK HERE
When my clients begin to give sensual massages, slow things down, and shift toward more oral and manual pleasure with their partners, many find their erections improve. And the FirmTech ring shows that in black-and-white. No guessing. No shame. Just clarity.
Why Slowing Down Is the Real Performance Edge
The modern man is under constant pressure—to succeed, to perform, to dominate. But in the bedroom, that energy often works against him. What I teach instead is something slower. Softer. Smarter.
Slowing down gives you time to feel. To notice your partner’s breathing. To explore with your mouth. To tune into her responses. To let the arousal build—not with friction, but with trust and anticipation.
That’s what I’ve seen time and time again: when men slow down and focus on giving sensual, attentive touch, they last longer, connect more, and feel better about themselves. Not because they’re doing more—but because they’re doing it with presence.
A Final Word from Me to You
If you’re reading this because you want to improve your sexual performance, I invite you to shift your question. Don’t ask, “How can I last longer?” Ask, “How can I give more pleasure? How can I connect more fully? How can I slow things down enough to feel deeply and love generously?”
The answers are simple:
- Sensual sex classes for men should be pre requsite for every man
- Learn to give a sensual massage. Make it a ritual, a gift, a doorway into intimacy.
- Embrace oral and manual pleasure—not as prelude, but as central acts of sexual connection.
- Use a tool like the FirmTech ring to support your journey and track your body’s arousal without pressure.
- And most of all, take your time. Pleasure isn’t in the finish—it’s in the flow.
This is the kind of sexuality I coach men into every day. Not performance-based. Not penetration-obsessed. But soulful, skillful, and beautifully real.
If that sounds like the kind of lover you want to become—welcome. You’re in the right place.
