Frequently Asked Questions 

General Questions:

What is a sensual massage?

A sensual massage is given with a genuine sense of care and intimacy – involving relaxation, pleasure and arousal of the body. Sensual massage offers both physical and emotional benefits and takes a humanistic approach to sensual and erotic arousal. It focuses on giving the receiver an authentic full-body therapeutic massage that combines traditional massage strokes with intentional arousing techniques. These are aimed at slowly relaxing and simultaneously arousing the receiver. Other than occasional instructions, the massage is usually given in silence, but natural sounds of arousal are encouraged. The sensual massage usually leads to orgasm but without any pressure or expectation to do so. As well as being pleasurable, the massage can also help people with sexual performance challenges, fears around intimacy, loss of libido, sexual frustration and – if bringing in a female masseur in a four hands massage – same-sex intimacy exploration. The sensual masseurs approach this treatment with genuine care and integrity.

Colin offers various types of sensual massage

For WomenThe Absolute Massage , The Intimacy Massage and the Psychosensual Treatment.

For MenThe Premium, Superior and Standard and the Psychosensual Treatment

For CouplesThe Watch & Enjoy, The Watch & Touch, The Give With Men, The Tandem and The Psychosensual Treatment

How can I be sure I won’t experience something I don’t want or like? 

Whether taking the Psychosensual, Absolute or Intimacy Massage, female clients must complete the Authorisation & Request Form before the first appointment.  This form enables female clients to indicate any areas they want me to focus on and clarify their boundaries, preferences and desires for the treatment. With its zero to ten scoring section, the Authorisation & Request Form enables you to create your ideal experience. Scoring ten means you definitely want something included; scoring zero means you don’t want this included – with three, five and eight as levels to help you indicate what type and intensity of erotic arousal you want to explore. The form also acts as legal authority for me to give you this massage.

How can I ensure confidentiality and discretion?

I have been giving sensual massages for 18 years and particularly to women for nine years. The women who come to me do so for many reasons, but almost all require discretion and confidentiality. Some women come from relationships without their partner’s knowledge. Others’ confidentiality is to do with their work. For some women, it is because they are well known in the media or entertainment worlds, and of course, some come from a culture or belief system that restricts their sexuality.  I have even seen royalty (not from the UK! ) A client can give me a false name and does not need to tell me anything they do not want to. If I meet a client by chance in public, I would ignore them unless they speak to me first. I never meet clients socially unless they attend an event or talk I may be giving.

Where are you located?

My treatment studio is located in Sloane Square Chelsea SW1X 9DE Central London.

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The full address will be given on confirmation of your appointment.

Do you give home or hotel visits?

Occaisionally, but only for women, couples or for those with disabilities, I am happy to consider coming to your location (hotel or home) if it is located within zone 1 or 2 in central London.  Travel costs and extra time will be charged. For appointments further afield, I would need to work out a rate for you.

Do you have disabled access?

Yes. The treatment room shower and toilet are on the ground floor, so suitable for those with a walking disability.  The is one step into the building from out side.

I have had a Tantric massage before or heard of it; is this the same?

It is similar in that it gives you the opportunity to explore your sexual and sensual energies safely and discreetly. However, I prefer to describe my approach as humanistic, since this experience focuses on us as sensual and sexual beings rather than spiritual. The massage is about taking us back to our deepest feelings of intimacy, sensuality and arousal, and does not include any spiritual aspects such as ritual, breathing exercises or meditation.

Can I cancel my appointment?

Yes, you can cancel anytime, but if cancelled up to 24 hours before at no charge. If within 24 hours then you pay the whole fee and it is held as payment for an alternative date or to cancel completely, there is a 50% charge made.

Do you have any testimonials or feedback from previous clients I can read?

Yes, I have over 260 5-star reviews on Ekomi review site Many of them given by women and couples.

I also have a very comprehensive Testimonials page. These were given freely and cover a period of years, from 2012 to the present day.

I am nervous, What can you tell me to make me feel calmer?

Uncertain about which treatment to choose. What might be my next step? I offer every first-time client the option of calling me for a free 15-minute phone chat. In this call, you can ask me any questions and explain your reasons for wanting to come for an appointment. Together we can figure out the best option for you. To arrange this call, just text or WhatsApp me on 07966 522 696.

Can I view an example of the treatments?

Yes, if you register in Intimacy X you can view a detailed 10-minute demonstration of the different elements of the Absolute massage being given. To register in Intimacy X [Click here]

Can I spread my payments for a single or series of appointments?

Yes, you can. I offer options of spending payments and purchasing hours with up to a 40% discount. The hours purchased can be used over a full year. [click here] 

Do you offer reductions for the low-paid?

I want everyone to have access to sensual massage so I will do my best to accommodate your budget. If you are unemployed, I need proof of your status to give a discount. You will need to fit in with my available times for the appointment, which are usually mornings between 9 am and 1 pm

Do you offer better rates for regular treatments?

Yes, I do please check out the payment plans. [click here] 

Questions about the content of the massage:

Most of the answers below apply to the Absolute but answers that are NOT relevant to the Intimacy Massage (less intimate than the Absolute and is surface arousal only) are asterisked below (*) in red.

What are the differences between the Women’s Absolute and the Exploration and Intimacy Massages?

The Absolute massage is the ultimate erotic massage, and completing the Absolute Authorisation & Request Form can be tailored to your requirements. Generally, clients like to include both external and internal stimulation, but this massage can also include specific erotic arousal that a client may want to explore. The Exploration massage includes external clitoral and internal vaginal and is more intense than the Intimacy massage but less expansive than the Absolute massage. The Intimacy Massage is the lightest massage given in its arousing content and only includes the surface of body arousal ( clitoral and nipple) it is also only 60 minutes in length.

If I wanted you to, would you undress me before the massage?

No, After meeting you and a brief conversation I leave you to undress and take a shower. I return to the room once you are lying on the treatment bed.

Do you give body-to-body contact?

The massage by nature involves some body-to-body contact since as well as using my hands, I also use my arms, elbows and if appropriate my body weight, although this can be adjusted to suit your comfort.*

What oils do you use?

I use unscented grape-seed oil and, at times, standard water-based lubrication cream. If you have any allergies or prefer a particular type of oil or lubrication to be used, then please tell me in advance and bring some along with you. I cannot give a dry massage.

What methods of communication are there for identifying my boundaries?

I ask you to complete the Authorisation & Request Form before you come for the treatment. Of course, at any time during the massage you can speak to me to say if you have something particular to inform me to stop something, but for those who prefer not to talk I also have a hand-holding system during the massage when you can communicate that you are feeling good by squeezing my hand when I hold yours or at any time waving it to say ‘stop what you are doing’ .

Are you clothed when giving the massage?

I begin the massage fully clothed in light cotton trousers and polo shirt and then become topless part way through. I can be naked upon request.

Can I touch you during the massage?

The nature of this massage is about intimacy and trust – ultimately, it’s up to you. For some people, it’s important to be able to receive touch without having to reciprocate touch, while others prefer to give touch. The choice is yours and can be indicated on the Authorisation & Request Form.

How is the vaginal stimulation given to women?

This is given with hands and fingers or if requested with a sex toy. Grapeseed oil or water-based lubrications are used. You are welcome to bring your own oil and lubrication if you prefer.  The type and intensity of both the clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be indicated when you complete the Authorisation & Request form. Clitoral stimulation is given in phases 2 & 3 of the massage with vaginal stimulation (both external and internal) given in phases 3 & 4. The depth and intensity of the vaginal stimulation are guided by you, but I aim to follow your responses as the massage progresses.

Can I talk to you before or during the massage?

Of course, you can. On arrival, if you feel it helps we can chat about the treatment for a few minutes before you take a shower and at the beginning of the massage it’s also fine to chat. Once the massage is underway, however, it’s best to refrain from conversation and use the hand-holding method to communicate how you feel during the massage. I will explain this when you get here.

Do you kiss during the massage?


I make quite a bit of noise when I am turned on – is that a problem?

Not at all. Women are programmed to make noise when aroused; it is the female mating call. I encourage you to be as vocal as you want and to express your pleasure in any way you like. As a man and your masseur, I respond by making it as good for you as I can. The more you respond, the more I can confidently give.

I am concerned that when turned on, I might cross your boundaries.

Erotic stimulation between two people in whatever circumstances relies on good communication. If there is something you feel you want to do or say, then go ahead as I won’t be offended. If it is something that falls beyond my own personal and professional boundaries, then I will gently say so.

Is anal stimulation an option?

Again, this can be indicated by the Authorisation & Request form, stating your preference for external only, internal or not to be included. *

Will you use any toys or vibrators on me?

This is your choice, and I have several vibrators, but I only bring them into the massage if the client has requested the use of them. You can also bring your own.

Can you include any fetish or role-play?

I am happy to include some light domination only. I do not role-play.

Will you include penetrative sex in the massage?

No. I do not have penetrative sex. All stimulation is given as described above and can be re-confirmed in type and intensity on the Authorisation & Request Form.

Are you healthy?

Yes, I take regular sexual health checks, and since this is my main work, I always maintain a high level of personal health and hygiene. I expect this from my clients, too.  I also have a female partner who also regularly tests. The latest all-clear STI test is January 2024

Do I need to be healthy?

Absolutely. You should not attend any appointment, training or workshops if you are showing any symptoms of fever or any other conditions that may be contagious.

Do not attend a sensual massage if you suffer from:-

  • Extreme anxiety
  • Have any symptoms of flu or a virus
  • Have excessively high blood pressure
  • Are you experiencing any sexually transmitted disease
  • Have a heart condition
  • Have a serious skin condition
  • Have any open cuts
  • Have any broken bones

Do you allow poppers?

No, I do not see clients who are using poppers or who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

Do you give four hands massage?

Yes, I can arrange a four hands massage with either another male or a female masseur – see 4 hands options under 4 hands treatments

Other Questions:

Do I need to pay a deposit?

New client may be asked to pay a £50 deposit this will be requested via a link sent to you or can be paid by cash into a  bank account.

Do I get a refund of my deposit if I cancel?

If you cancel up to 24 hours before there is no charge made. If given within 24 hours of the appointment or a no show then you will be charged the full amount to be held against a future booking or 50% charged to cancel completely.

Can I arrive early?

No, please arrive at the time you have booked your appointment for.

What if I am running late?

Just send me a text or email to keep me informed, as I may have to make adjustments to later appointments.

What if I need to cancel?

Not a problem – even if last minute – but please do send me a text and tell me. See cancellation terms above. cancellations within 24 hours may incur a charge if you can not transfer to another date.

Can I take a shower?

If you have not showered within one hour of the start of your appointment, then I ask you to take a full body shower before receiving the massage. You are also welcome to take another shower following the massage.

Can I have a glass of wine when I arrive?

Sometimes this helps the nerves and yes – I am happy to offer you a glass of wine or water on arrival. Red or White?

Can I have someone with me at the appointment?

Yes, sometimes partners or friends come along and sit either in a nearby room or in the treatment room and watch. The latter is what I call the Watch & Enjoy Couples Massage.

Notification to friends for your security

I fully understand that if you are coming to see me the first time you may want to let another person know where you are and that you may have arranged to text or call them once you have arrived and met. If this is the case then please feel free to do so shortly after you arrive.

Can I have someone present in the room with me if I want?

Yes. You can have a partner or friend in the room or in the waiting room near by or a designated female provided by myself the latter may incur a small additional cost.

Do you need anything from me?

I want you to be yourself – to feel free to express your emotions, desires, and fantasies without restriction. To be who you want to be and to do what you want to do.

I have question but it is not covered on this page.

Please either email me , text me or call me with your question and I will reply very soon.

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