Frequently Asked Questions 


General Questions:

What is a sensual massage?

A sensual massage is given with a genuine sense of care and intimacy – involving relaxation, pleasure and arousal of the body. Sensual massage offers both physical and emotional benefits and takes a humanistic approach to sensual and erotic arousal. It focuses on giving the receiver an authentic full body therapeutic massage that combines traditional massage strokes with intentional arousing techniques. These are aimed at slowly relaxing and simultaneously arousing the receiver. Other than occasional instructions the massage is usually given in silence but natural sounds of arousal are encouraged. The sensual massage usually leads to orgasm, but without any pressure or expectation to do so. As well as being pleasurable, the massage can also help people with sexual performance challenges, fears around intimacy, loss of libido, sexual frustration and – if bringing in a female masseur in a 4 hands massage – same-sex intimacy exploration. The sensual masseurs approach this treatment with a genuine sense of care and integrity.

Colin offers various types of sensual massage

For Women – The Absolute Massage , The Intimacy Massage and the Psychosensual Treatment.

For Men – The Premium, Superior and Standard and the Psychosensual Treatment

For Couples – The Watch & Enjoy, The Watch & Touch, The Give With Men, The Tandem and The Psychosensual Treatment

There are also 4 hands massage options available

How can I be sure I won’t experience something I don’t want or like? 

Whether taking the Psychosensual, Absolute or the Intimacy Massage, female clients are required to complete the respective Authorisation & Request Form before the first appointment. This is optional for men.  This form enables female clients to indicate any areas they want me to focus on as well as clarifying their boundaries, preferences and desires for the treatment. With its zero to ten scoring section, the Authorisation & Request Form enables you to create your ideal experience. Scoring 10 means you definitely want something included; scoring zero means you don’t want this included – with three, five and eight as levels to help you indicate what type and intensity of erotic arousal you want to explore. The form also acts as legal authority for me to give you this massage.

How can I ensure confidentiality and discretion?

I have been giving sensual massage to for 15 years and particularly to women for 7 years. The women who come to me do so for many reasons but almost all require discretion and confidentiality. Some women come from relationships without their partner’s knowledge others confidentiality is to do with their work. For some women, it is because they are well known in the media or entertainment worlds and of course there are those who are coming from a culture or belief system that restricts their sexuality.  I have even seen royalty (not from the UK! )
Given that I have seen over 600 female clients in seven years I can guarantee I do everything I can to remain confidential and to date, there has never been an issue. A client can give me a false name and does not need to tell me anything they do not want to. If I met a client by chance in public I would ignore them unless they speak to me first. I never meet my clients socially unless they are coming to an event or talk I may be giving.
When booking i just need your mobile number and an email address.  I also require you to complete the Authorisation & Request Form to give me permission and guidance to give the massage. All information on this form is for my eyes only.

How do I view the Authorisation & Request Form?

To request the Authorisation &Requestt Form email colin@intimacymatters.co.uk 

Where are you located?

My treatment studio is located in London Bridge. 10  minutes walk from Borough and London Bridge stations. There is complete privacy and quiet. The full address will be given on confirmation of your appointment. For women and couples and by prior arrangement, I am happy to come to your location (hotel or home); if a massage table is not available I will require the use of a bed or futon/cushions on the floor. Travel costs and extra time will be charged for.

I have had a Tantric massage before or heard of it, is this the same?

It is similar in that it is giving you the opportunity to explore your sexual and sensual energies safely and discreetly. However, I prefer to describe my approach as humanistic, since this experience focuses on us as sensual and sexual beings rather than spiritual. The massage is about taking us back to our deepest feelings of intimacy, sensuality and arousal, and does not include any spiritual aspects such as ritual, breathing exercises or meditation.

Can I cancel my appointment?

Yes, you can cancel at any time but if cancelled up to 24 hours before t no charge. If within 24 hours then you pay the whole fee and it is held as payment for an alternative date or to cancel completely there is a 50% charge made.

Do you have any testimonials or feedback from previous clients I can read?

Yes I have over 80 5 star reviews on  Trust Pilot

I also have a very comprehensive Testimonials page. These were given freely and cover a period of years, from 2012 to the present day. You are welcome to give your own feedback after your appointment by following this link. [Click here]

I am very interested in coming along for a treatment but am feeling nervous and also uncertain about which treatment to choose. What might be my next step? 

I offer every first-time client the option of calling me for a free 15-minute phone chat. In this call, you can ask me any questions and explain your reasons for wanting to come for an appointment. Together we can figure out the best option for you. To arrange this call just text or WhatsApp me on 07966 522 696.

Is it possible to see a demonstration of the massage before committing to booking an appointment? 

Yes, if you register in Intimacy X you can view a detailed 10-minute demonstration of the different elements of the Absolute massage being given. To register in Intimacy X [Click here]

Do you give home or hotel visits?

I always prefer to see you at my treatment room but if this is impossible due to disability or distance and timing then I am happy to discuss alternatives.

Can I spread my payments for a single or series of appointments?

Yes, you can. I offer options of spending payments and purchasing hours with up to a 40% discount. The hours purchased can be used over a full year. [click here] 

Do you offer reductions for students or the low paid?

I want everyone to have access to sensual massage so will do my best to accommodate your budget. If you are a student or unemployed I will need proof of your status to give a discount. You will need to fit in with my available times for the appointment which are usually mornings between 9 am and 1 pm

Do you offer better rates for regular treatments?

Yes I do please check out the payment plans. [click here] 

Questions about the content of the massage:

Most of the answers below apply to the Absolute but answers that are NOT relevant to the Intimacy Massage (less intimate than the Absolute and is surface arousal only) are asterisked below (*) in red.

What are the differences between the Absolute and the Intimacy Massages?

The Absolute massage is the ultimate erotic massage and by completing the Absolute Authorisation & Request Form can be tailored to your requirements. Generally, clients like to include both external stimulation as well as internal stimulation but this massage can also include specific erotic arousal that a client may want to explore. The Intimacy Massage is lighter in its arousing content and only includes surface of body arousal ( clitoral and nipple)

If I wanted you to, would you undress me before the massage?

No, After meeting you and a brief conversation I leave you to undress and take a shower. I return to the room once you are laying on the treatment bed.

Do you give body to body contact?

The massage by nature involves body to body contact since as well as using my hands, I also use my arms, elbows and if appropriate my body weight, although this can be adjusted to suit your comfort.*

What oils do you use?

I use unscented grape-seed oil and at times standard water based lubrication cream. If you have any allergy or prefer a particular type of oil or lubrication to be used then please tell me in advance and brings some along with you. I cannot give a dry massage.

What methods of communication are there for identifying my boundaries?

I ask you to complete the Authorisation & Request Form before you come for the treatment. Of course at any time during the massage you can speak to me to say if you have something particular to inform me to to stop something but for those who prefer to not talk I also have a hand holding system during the massage when you can communicate that you are feeling good by squeezing my hand when I hold yours or at any time waving it to say ‘stop what you are doing’ .

Are you clothed or naked when giving the massage?

I can remain clothed or be naked (if naked only for the second half of the massage) – whatever makes you most comfortable. You would specify your preferences on the Authorisation & Request Form in advance of your appointment.

Can I touch you during the massage?

The nature of this massage is about intimacy and trust – ultimately, it’s up to you. For some people, it’s important to be able to receive touch without having to give back, while others prefer a more reciprocal experience. The choice is yours and can be indicated on the Authorisation & Request Form.

How is the vaginal stimulation given?

This is given with hands and fingers or if requested with a sex toy. grapeseed oil or water based lubrications is used. You are welcome to bring your own oil and lubrication if you prefer.  The type and intensity of both the clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be indicated when you complete the Authorisation & Request form. Clitoral stimulation is given in phases 2 & 3 of the massage with vaginal stimulation (both external and internal) given in phases 3 & 4. The depth and intensity of the vaginal stimulation are guided by you but I aim to follow your responses as the massage progresses.

Can I talk to you during the massage?

Of course you can. On arrival, if you feel it helps we can chat about the treatment for a few minutes before you take a shower and at the beginning of the massage it’s also fine to chat. Once the massage is underway, however, its best to refrain from conversation and use the hand-holding method to communicate how you feel during the massage. I will explain this when you get here.

Do you kiss during the massage?

No

I make quite a bit of noise when I am turned on – is that a problem?

Not at all. Women are programmed to make noise when aroused, it is the female mating call. I encourage you to be as vocal as you want and to express your pleasure in any way you like. As a man and your masseur, I respond by making it as good for you as I can. The more you respond the more I can confidently give.

I am concerned that when turned on I might cross your boundaries?

Erotic stimulation between two people in whatever circumstances relies on good communication. If there is something you feel you want to do or say then go ahead as I won’t be offended. If it is something that falls beyond my own personal boundaries then I will gently say so but my boundaries are pretty wide!*

Is anal stimulation an option?

Again, this can be indicated by the Authorisation & Request form, stating your preference for external only, internal or not to be included at all. *

Will you use any toys or vibrators on me?

This is your choice, and I do have several vibrators, but I only bring them into the massage it the client has requested the use of them. You can also bring your own.

Can you include any fetish or role play?

I am happy to include some light domination, but anything more specific should be discussed when booking the appointment. *

Are you healthy?

Yes, I take regular sexual health checks and since this is my main work I always maintain a high level of personal health and hygiene. I expect this of my clients too.

Do I need to be healthy?

Absolutely. You should not attend any appointment, training or workshops if you are showing any symptoms of fever or any other conditions that may be contagious.

Do not attend if you suffer from:-

  • Have any symptoms of Covid 19
  • Have excessively high blood pressure
  • Are experiencing any sexual transmitted disease
  • Have a heart condition
  • Have a serious skin condition
  • Have any open cuts
  • Have any broken bones

When was your last ALL CLEAR full sexual health check?

April 2020

If I wanted, will you give special requests?*

I am happy to consider special requests. Please email these separately and I will reply with my thoughts

Do you allow Poppers?

No, I do not see clients who are using poppers or who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

Do you give four hands massage?

Yes, I can arrange a four hands massage with either another male or a female masseur – see 4 hands options under [Intimate Consultations].

Other Questions:

Do I need to pay a deposit?

If you have booked via the Fresha booking system then you will be asked to leave you card number as security for the booking No money is taken nor the card number seen by me. payment is taken at then end of the treatments and can be by card, cash or bank transfer.

Do I get a refund of my deposit if I cancel?

If you cancel up to 24 hours before there is no charge made. If given within 24 hours of the appointment or a no show then you will be charged the full amount to be held against a future booking or 50% charged to cancel completely.

Can I arrive early?

No, please arrive at the time you have booked your appointment for.

What if I am running late?

Just send me a text or email to keep me informed, as I may have to make adjustments to later appointments.

What if I need to cancel?

Not a problem – even if last minute – but please do send me a text and tell me. See cancellation terms above.

Can I take a shower?

If you have not showered within one hour of the start of your appointment, then I ask you to take a full body shower before receiving the massage. You are also welcome to take another shower following the massage.

Can I have a glass of wine when I arrive?

Sometimes this helps the nerves and yes – I am happy to offer you a glass of wine or water on arrival. Red or White?

Can I have someone with me at the appointment?

Yes, sometimes partners or friends come along and sit either in a nearby room or in the treatment room and watch. The latter is what I call the Watch & Enjoy Couples Massage.

Notification to friends for your security
I fully understand that if you are coming to see me the first time you may want to let another person know where you are and that you may have arranged to text or call them once you have arrived and met. If this is the case then please feel free to do so shortly after you arrive.

Do you need anything from me?

I want you to be yourself – to feel free to express your emotions, desires, and fantasies without restriction. To be who you want to be and to do what you want to do.

If I enjoy the experience can I come back for regular appointments at a discount?

Yes – please see DISCOUNTED PAYMENT PLANS 

I have question but it is not covered on this page.

Please either email me , text me or call me with your question and I will reply very soon.

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