Frequently Asked Questions 


General Questions:

What is a couples sensual massage experience ?

A couples sensual massage experience can either be a massage given to one of the couple when the other watching or taking part haldf way through or as a tandem massage with the couples laying side by side and the massage is given by two masseurs ( 2 male or a male and a femoral) Which evert you select the massage experience is given with a genuine sense of care and intimacy – involving relaxation, pleasure and arousal of the body. Sensual massage offers both physical and emotional benefits and takes a humanistic approach to sensual and erotic arousal. It focuses on giving the receivers an authentic full body therapeutic massage that combines traditional massage strokes with intentional arousing techniques. These are aimed at slowly relaxing and simultaneously arousing the receiver. Other than occasional instructions the massage is usually given in silence but natural sounds of arousal are encouraged. The sensual massage usually leads to orgasm, but without any pressure or expectation to do so. As well as being pleasurable, the massage can also help people with sexual performance challenges, fears around intimacy, loss of libido, sexual frustration and.

Colin offers various types of sensual massage for couples

The Watch & Enjoy, The Watch & Touch, The Give With Men, The Tandem and The Psychosensual Treatment

How we be sure we won’t experience something we don’t want or like? 

Which ever couples massage experience you select I always make sure I fully understand your motivation and desires. If the the female of the couples is to be taking the massage then she is required to complete an Authorisation & Request Form before the appointment. There is also a form the male of the couple can complete but this is optional.   These form enables the couple to indicate any areas they want me to focus on as well as clarifying their boundaries, preferences and desires for the massage. With its zero to ten scoring section, the Authorisation & Request Form enables you to create your ideal experience. Scoring 10 means you definitely want something included; scoring zero means you don’t want this included – with three, five and eight as levels to help you indicate what type and intensity of erotic arousal you want to explore. The form also acts as legal authority for me to give this massage.

How can I ensure confidentiality and discretion?

I have been giving sensual massage to for 15 years and particularly to couples for 7 years. The s who come to me do so for many reasons but almost all require discretion and confidentiality. Some couples to explore new sensations, some to re energise their sexual relationship, some for same gender exploration. Some men like to watch their female partners enjoy the experience, some women want to experience another mans skill at arousal but with their partner present. Truly there are many motivations.
I can guarantee I do everything I can to remain confidential and to date, there has never been an issue. Clients can give me a false name and do not need to tell me anything they do not want to about themselves. If I met clients by chance in public I would ignore them unless they speak to me first. I never meet my clients socially unless they are coming to an event or talk I may be giving.
What do you need from us?
When booking i just need your mobile number and an email address.  I also need to be sure that both of you are fully supportive of taking the massage and that one is not being persuaded by the other. I never give surprise appointments.

How do I view the Authorisation & Request Form?

To request the Authorisation &Requestt Form email colin@intimacymatters.co.uk 

Where are you located?

My treatment studio is located in London Bridge. 10  minutes walk from Borough and London Bridge stations. There is complete privacy and quiet. The full address will be given on confirmation of your appointment. For women and couples and by prior arrangement, I am happy to come to your location (hotel or home); if a massage table is not available I will require the use of a bed or futon/cushions on the floor. Travel costs and extra time will be charged for.

We have had a Tantric massage before or heard of it, is this the same?

It is similar in that it is giving you the opportunity to explore your sexual and sensual energies safely and discreetly. However, I prefer to describe my approach as humanistic, since this experience focuses on us as sensual and sexual beings rather than spiritual. The massage is about taking us back to our deepest feelings of intimacy, sensuality and arousal, and does not include any spiritual aspects such as ritual, breathing exercises or meditation.

Can we cancel the appointment?

Yes, you can cancel at any time but if cancelled within 24 hours then any deposit paid (£25) is retained. If you are a regular client and have not paid a deposit then a donation of £25 towards lost business is gratefully accepted. If you have paid for the appointment in full in advance then this is usually held and transferred to another suitable date – to be taken within six months.

Do you have any testimonials or feedback from previous clients I can read?

Yes I use Trust Pilot 

I also have a very comprehensive Testimonials page. These were given freely and cover a period of years, from 2012 to the present day. You are welcome to give your own feedback after your appointment by following this link. [Click here]

We are very interested in coming along for a treatment but we are feeling nervous and also uncertain about which treatment to choose. What might be my next step? 

I offer every first-time client the option of calling me for a free 15-minute phone chat. In this call, you can ask me any questions and explain your reasons as a couple for wanting to come for an appointment. Together we can figure out the best option for you. To arrange this call just text or WhatsApp me on 07966 522 696.

Is it possible to see a demonstration of the couples massage before committing to booking an appointment? 

At the moment no as i have not filmed this yet but you can request to see  a detailed 10-minute demonstration of the Absolute Massage for women and the Premium massage for men, combine this and you have a couple scenario.

Do you give home or hotel visits?

I always prefer to see you at my treatment room but if this is impossible due to disability or distance and timing then I am happy to discuss alternatives.

Can we spread payments for series of appointments?

Yes, you can. I offer a Standard or Premium options of purchasing hours with up to a 40% discount. The hours purchased can be used over a full year. [click here] 

Do you offer reductions for students or the low paid?

I want everyone to have access to sensual massage so will do my best to accommodate your budget. If you are a student or unemployed I will need proof of your status to give a discount. You will need to fit in with my available times for the appointment which are usually mornings between 9 am and 1 pm

Do you offer better rates for regular treatments?

Yes I do please check out the payment plans. [click here] 

Questions about the content of the massage:

Most of the answers below apply to the Absolute but answers that are NOT relevant to the Intimacy Massage (less intimate than the Absolute and is surface arousal only) are asterisked below (*) in red.

What are the differences between the Absolute and the Intimacy Massages?

The Absolute massage is the ultimate erotic massage and by completing the Absolute Authorisation & Request Form can be tailored to your requirements. Generally, clients like to include both external stimulation as well as internal stimulation but this massage can also include specific erotic arousal that a client may want to explore. The Intimacy Massage is lighter in its arousing content and only includes surface of body arousal ( clitoral and nipple)

If I wanted you to, would you undress us before the massage?

No, After meeting you and a brief conversation I leave you to undress and take a shower. I return to the room once you are both laying on the treatment bed or is just one of you taking the massage then the other sitting on the sofa nearby. The watcher can be fully dressed, partially dressed or naked

Do you give body to body contact?

The massage by nature involves body to body contact since as well as using my hands, I also use my arms, elbows and if appropriate my body weight, although this can be adjusted to suit your comfort. If the coupe massage is atanden then the female masseur also gibes body to boby*

Are the masseurs clothed or naked when giving the massage?

We can emain clothed or be naked (if naked only for the second half of the massage) – whatever makes you most comfortable. You would specify your preferences on the Authorisation & Request Form in advance of your appointment.

Can we touch you during the massage?

The nature of this massage is about intimacy and trust – ultimately, it’s up to you. For some people, it’s important to be able to receive touch without having to give back, while others prefer a more reciprocal experience. The choice is yours and can be indicated on the Authorisation & Request Form.

How is the vaginal stimulation given?

This is given with hands and fingers or if requested with a sex toy. The type and intensity of both the clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be indicated when you complete the Authorisation & Request form. Clitoral stimulation is given in phases 2 & 3 of the massage with vaginal stimulation (both external and internal) given in phases 3 & 4. The depth and intensity of the vaginal stimulation are guided by you but I aim to follow your responses as the massage progresses.

How is the male arousal given?

This is given by hand but thought the massage the male is edged so when taking a tandem massage the couple usual orgasm are simultaneously.

Can we talk to you during the massage?

Of course you can. On arrival, if you feel it helps we can chat about the treatment for a few minutes before you take a shower and at the beginning of the massage it’s also fine to chat. Once the massage is underway, however, its best to refrain from conversation and use the hand-holding method to communicate how you feel during the massage. I will explain this when you get here.

Do you kiss during the massage?

This can be indicated on the Authorisation & Request Form*

We can make quite a bit of noise when we are turned on – is that a problem?

Not at all. Women are programmed to make noise when aroused, it is the female mating call. I encourage you to be as vocal as you want and to express your pleasure in any way you like. As a man and your masseur, I respond by making it as good for you as I can. The more you respond the more I can confidently give.

We are concerned that when turned on we might cross your boundaries?

Good erotic stimulation between people in whatever circumstances relies on good communication. If there is something you feel you want to do or say then go ahead as we won’t be offended. If it is something that falls beyond our own personal boundaries then we will gently say so but our boundaries are pretty wide!*

Is anal stimulation an option?

Again, this can be indicated by the Authorisation & Request form, stating your preference for external only, internal or not to be included at all. *

Will you use any toys or vibrators on us?

This is your choice, and I do have several vibrators, but I only bring them into the massage it the client has requested the use of them. You can also bring your own.

Can you include any fetish or role play?

We are happy to include some light domination, but anything more specific should be discussed when booking the appointment. *

Are you healthy?

Yes, we take regular sexual health checks and since this is my main work I always maintain a high level of personal health and hygiene. I expect this of my clients too.

If I wanted, will you give special requests?*

We are happy to consider special requests. Please email these separately and Colin will reply with my thoughts

Do you allow Poppers?

No, we do not see clients who are using poppers or who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

Do you give four hands massages for couples

Yes, we can arrange a four hands massage with either another male or a female masseur – see 4 hands options under [Intimate Consultations].

Other Questions:

Do we need to pay a deposit?

For first-time bookings, I usually require a deposit of £50 to be paid either by bank transfer or PayPal or cash payment in to the bank.  This ensures your authenticity and also covers my time should you change your mind and cancel altogether. If you feel unable to pay a deposit them I require you to phone me so I can verify your identity.

Do I get a refund of my deposit if I cancel?

I do not give refunds for cancellations, but I am happy to keep it held on account and then reallocate the deposit to another appointment, workshop or event. Deposits are not required for 2nd or future appointments.

Can we arrive early?

No, please arrive at the time you have booked your appointment for.

What if we are running late?

Just send me a text or email to keep me informed, as I may have to make adjustments to later appointments.

What if we need to cancel?

Not a problem – even if last minute – but please do send me a text and tell me.

Can we take a shower?

If you have not showered within one hour of the start of your appointment, then I ask you to take a full body shower before receiving the massage. You are also welcome to take another shower following the massage.

Can we have a glass of wine when I arrive?

Sometimes this helps the nerves and yes – I am happy to offer you a glass of wine or water on arrival. Red or White?

Do you need anything from us?

I want you to be yourself – to feel free to express your emotions, desires, and fantasies without restriction. To be who you want to be and to do what you want to do.

If I enjoy the experience can we come back for regular appointments at a discount?

Yes – please see DISCOUNTED PAYMENT PLANS 

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