Male Volunteer Massage Receiver Registration
This page explains how to apply as a male volunteer receiver for training provided through Intimacy Matters and the School of Sensual Massage.
Male volunteer receivers are required for:
- Massage My Man private and group classes — women learning how to give men a sensual massage.
- Touch & Turn On private and group classes — men learning how to give other men a sensual massage.
- Other School of Sensual Massage training sessions where students need practical, supervised experience.
Click here to complete the Male Volunteer Receiver Registration Form
Important: Please Read Before Applying
When I teach, I demonstrate techniques directly on the volunteer’s body before guiding the student as they practise. This includes intimate and genital massage techniques.
You must therefore be comfortable receiving male-to-male intimate touch from me, regardless of whether the student is male or female. If you are not comfortable with this, please do not apply.
You must also be confident that you can become fully aroused, maintain an erection and reach orgasm in a teaching environment.
Although receiving the massage will hopefully be very enjoyable, your role is primarily to help the student learn. The session should not be viewed as an experience arranged for your own pleasure. You are providing a real body on which the student can practise, understand arousal and develop confidence, sensitivity and practical skills.
Why Students Take Sensual Massage Training
Students come to the School of Sensual Massage for many different reasons. Some want to develop skills for their personal relationships, while others intend to work professionally.
Students Learning for Personal Use
Female and male students often want to:
- Give their partner a more enjoyable and fulfilling sensual massage.
- Bring greater variety, excitement and creativity into their intimate relationship.
- Learn how to build arousal slowly rather than rushing towards orgasm.
- Become more confident touching and responding to another person’s body.
- Understand male arousal, erection and orgasm more fully.
- Reconnect with a long-term partner after intimacy has declined.
- Develop skills to share with an intimate friend or future partner.
- Explore same-sex touch or a previously unexplored aspect of their sexuality.
- Learn how to communicate about boundaries, pleasure and intimate preferences.
- Give pleasure without feeling pressure to have penetrative sex.
Students Training to Work Professionally
Other students want to:
- Become a professional sensual masseur or masseuse.
- Add sensual massage to their existing massage, bodywork or wellbeing services.
- Learn professional techniques, boundaries, consent and client care.
- Develop the confidence to work with real clients of different ages and body types.
- Understand how individual men respond differently to touch and arousal.
- Learn how to manage intimate situations calmly and professionally.
- Build a new part-time or full-time career.
- Provide a safe, respectful and non-judgemental service.
- Help clients reconnect with their bodies, sexuality and capacity for pleasure.
Why the Male Volunteer Receiver’s Role Is Important
A male volunteer receiver allows the student to turn theory and demonstrations into genuine hands-on learning. Whether the student is male or female, they need to understand how touch, pressure, pace and different techniques affect a real person’s body, arousal and responses.
By responding naturally and providing honest, constructive feedback, the volunteer helps the student develop sensitivity, confidence and practical ability. The receiver is therefore an essential part of the teaching process, helping personal students become better and more attentive intimate partners and professional students become knowledgeable, respectful and competent sensual masseurs.
Questions and Answers
Do I need to have experienced a sensual massage before volunteering?
Yes. Before being selected for a class, you must previously have received a sensual massage or training session with me.
If you have not, you will need to book a 60 or 90-minute demonstration sensual massage. Prospective volunteers receive a discount on this appointment.
Current discounted prices are:-
90 minute premium reduced from £230 to £180
60 min standard reduced from £180 to £145
This is important because it:
- Gives us an opportunity to meet and discuss volunteering in more detail.
- Allows you to experience the type of massage taught to students.
- Helps me understand your arousal process and how you reach orgasm.
- Enables me to match you with students whose learning needs are appropriate.
- Gives you the opportunity to ask questions and decide whether volunteering is right for you.
Completing a demonstration massage does not automatically guarantee that you will be selected as a volunteer.
Booking your demonstration massage
Check Colins availability for the demonstration massage Click here
But do not book anything just email Colin with your time request and he will reply to confirm detraiuls or offer an alternative time.
Who can apply?
I generally look for volunteers who:
- Are aged between 21 and 55.
- Live within approximately two hours of Central London or visit London regularly.
- Are comfortable being naked in a professional teaching environment.
- Are comfortable receiving full-body, intimate and genital touch from me and the student.
- Can become fully aroused and reach orgasm or ejaculation during a teaching session.
- Understand that their purpose is to help the student learn.
- Are comfortable giving honest and constructive feedback afterwards.
Exceptions may occasionally be made for men outside the usual age range who are fit, confident and particularly suitable for a student’s requirements.
Can I volunteer for female or male students?
Yes. On the registration form, you can indicate whether you are willing to receive massage from:
- Female students.
- Male students.
- Students of either gender.
Your stated preferences and boundaries will always be taken into consideration when matching you with a student.
What sexuality do I need to be?
Volunteers can be straight, bisexual, bicurious or gay.
Whatever your sexuality, you must be comfortable receiving intimate touch from me while I demonstrate the techniques. You can then choose whether you wish to volunteer for female students, male students or both.
What if I am completely straight and do not want another man touching me?
You should not apply.
Even when the student is female, I need to demonstrate the massage techniques directly on your body for her to observe and follow. This will include intimate and genital touch.
Will I be massaged by Colin as well as the student?
Yes.
During the earlier stages of training, I may demonstrate each technique before the student repeats it. I may also guide the student through an assisted four-hands massage.
As the student’s skills and confidence develop, they will perform more of the massage independently while I observe, instruct and provide guidance.
Do I need to be well endowed?
No. Penis size is not an important selection requirement.
What matters is that you are comfortable with your body and confident that you can become aroused, maintain an erection and reach orgasm in a teaching environment.
Do I need to have a high libido?
You need to be sexually responsive and confident that you can become aroused while other people are present.
A private class will normally involve you, the student and me. A group workshop may include several massage beds, volunteers and students in the same room.
Men who regularly experience significant erectile difficulties or delayed orgasm may not be suitable for most volunteer opportunities. However, individual circumstances can be discussed privately when you apply.
Is this intended to be a personal sensual experience for the volunteer?
No. You will hopefully enjoy receiving the massage, but the session is arranged for the student’s education.
Your role is to provide a responsive male body so the student can learn how touch, pace, pressure and different techniques affect arousal. You must be comfortable becoming visibly aroused and reaching orgasm without losing sight of the student’s learning needs.
You should be willing to communicate clearly and give useful feedback rather than treating the session as a free massage arranged solely for your own enjoyment.
Will I have penetrative sex during a class or workshop?
No.
The training may be intimate and erotic, and reciprocal touch may sometimes be included where it forms part of the agreed course and everyone has consented. However, students and volunteers do not have penetrative sex during School of Sensual Massage classes or workshops.
What body type is required?
I usually look for men whose body type could be described as:
- Slim.
- Fit.
- Toned.
- Muscular.
- Good average build.
Students occasionally express a preference for a particular age, appearance or body type. I explain that these factors are often less important than the volunteer’s confidence, responsiveness, attitude and suitability for learning.
You are welcome to apply even if you do not exactly match a student’s initial preference.
What about my health?
You must be fit and well enough to participate safely. You must not attend if you have a raised temperature, flu-like symptoms, a contagious illness or any condition that may put another person at risk.
You must be HIV negative and free from sexually transmitted infections. Any relevant health condition or medication that could affect arousal, erection, ejaculation or your ability to receive massage safely must be disclosed confidentially when you apply.
What will I have to do?
Your role is to:
- Arrive clean, punctual and prepared.
- Shower before the class if requested.
- Lie naked on the massage table and receive the massage.
- Communicate any discomfort or boundary concerns immediately.
- Respond naturally to the student’s touch.
- Be comfortable becoming fully aroused and reaching orgasm.
- Give helpful feedback on the student’s touch, technique, pressure, pace and overall skills.
- Shower afterwards if required.
You are not expected to perform or exaggerate your responses. However, you must be comfortable allowing the student to observe genuine male arousal and orgasm as part of their practical learning.
Private Classes
For a private class, the people present will normally be:
- The student.
- The volunteer receiver.
- Colin as the teacher.
A practical massage session will usually last approximately two hours. Please allow up to three hours in total for introductions, discussion, preparation, showering and feedback.
Some School of Sensual Massage courses are taught over several separate three-hour sessions. During each session, the student develops their skills by practising on a volunteer receiver.
In the earlier sessions, I provide more demonstrations and hands-on guidance. As the student progresses, they perform more of the massage independently while I observe and guide them.
Group Workshops
Group workshops may include up to six or seven volunteer receivers on separate massage tables, with students working individually or in pairs.
You will normally be required for approximately four hours.
Workshops may be divided into Foundation and Intermediate levels. The content and degree of intimate touch will depend on the level being taught.
Personal boundaries are discussed before the workshop. This can include:
- Whether you are comfortable receiving touch from male or female students.
- Your agreed level of intimate touch.
- Any health considerations.
- Any no-go areas or specific boundaries.
Agreed boundaries will always be respected. You must also respect the student’s boundaries throughout the session.
Will Photographs Be Taken?
I may occasionally take reference photographs during a class to help record positioning, hand placement or the techniques being taught.
These photographs are for my private teaching reference and are not published publicly, placed on websites or shared on social media.
They will only be sent directly to the student who attended the class if the student specifically requests them. Any photography will be discussed with you, and your consent obtained, before images are taken.
Agreeing to be a volunteer receiver does not automatically mean that you have agreed to be photographed or filmed.
Do Volunteers Get Paid?
No. Volunteer receiver opportunities are unpaid.
Being accepted as a volunteer may also give you access to discounted private sensual massage appointments with me. These are usually arranged in the morning and must always be booked in advance.
How Are Volunteers Selected?
When a volunteer opportunity becomes available, I send out a request containing the relevant date, time and student requirements.
I usually allow up to 48 hours for applications so that different volunteers have an opportunity to put themselves forward.
I then consider:
- The student’s learning needs.
- Your experience and reliability.
- Your stated gender and touch preferences.
- Your physical and sexual responsiveness.
- Whether your boundaries are compatible with the class.
- Your availability and suitability for that particular student.
I may share relevant details and a suitable photograph with the student to help with the selection. I will not share confidential information unnecessarily.
I try to confirm the selected volunteer well before the class, although last-minute changes sometimes happen. If you do not receive confirmation, please assume that you have not been selected for that particular opportunity.
How Often Can I Volunteer?
There are currently approximately 360 men registered, although not everyone remains active or is available when required.
I try to rotate opportunities fairly so that more suitable volunteers have the chance to participate. Being flexible, reliable and available at shorter notice will increase the likelihood of being selected.
Registration does not guarantee regular opportunities.
When Do Classes and Workshops Take Place?
Private classes are arranged when booked by an individual student. They may take place on weekdays or weekends and during the morning, afternoon or evening.
Once a class is confirmed, I usually send a volunteer request a few days beforehand.
Group workshops take place on specific advertised dates. Please watch for emails and group notifications inviting applications.
Add colin@intimacymatters.co.uk to your contacts and check your spam folder regularly so that you do not miss opportunities.
Volunteer Notifications, Telegram and Sensual Connect
Once your application has been accepted, you may be invited to join the male volunteers’ Telegram group.
I use this group to notify volunteers about:
- Private classes.
- Group workshops.
- Sensual massage opportunities.
- School of Sensual Massage training activities.
- Other relevant volunteer requests.
You may also be invited to join Sensual Connect, the networking community for people interested in sensual massage, education and positive intimate connection.
Now Complete The Registration Form
Before applying, please make sure you have read and understood everything on this page.
Click here to complete the Male Volunteer Receiver Registration Form
You will be contacted by email if your application is accepted. Acceptance onto the volunteer list does not guarantee that you will be selected for a particular class or workshop.
