Intimacy Matters

Colin Richards

Sex & Relationship Engineer

For Women, Men & Couples

London & International

Private & Group Workshops for Women, Men and Couples

Explore, discuss, understand and enhance your
sexual and relationship dynamics

Experience the health and well-being benefits of sensual massage as a healing treatment

Meet like-minded people at group events

Private Consulting Rooms in Battersea, London

International Clients by Skype or Special Appointment



For September I am offering one womens 60 minute Absolute massage treatment per day for only £95, reduced from £135

This limited offer massage can be booked any time from 8 am to 10 pm daily Read More & Book

Colin Richards has been featured in the following media outlets:

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Moving Premises

Change of Location. I am now permanently based in premises in London Bridge SE1 4QS – 10 min walk from London Bridge mainline Station and Tube Station.

Colin Richards

Sex & Relationship Engineer

Hi, my name is Colin Richards, and I have been working in the field of psychosexual health and well-being since 2005. In this time I have helped over 6000 people and discovered and used many different approaches to helping men women and couples explore their sexuality as well as dealing with sexual challenges that are not generally covered by conventional methods.  Throughout my career, I have encountered a wide range of issues from a general lack of sexual fulfilment to more specific challenges such as anorgasmia and erectile dysfunction, relationship breakdown and fear of intimacy.  Read more about Colin and his services. – Read More

Colin RIchards

Psychosensual Treatment

The Psychosensual Treatment for women, men and couples

Help with sexual performance, inability to orgasm and overcoming fears around physical intimacy and sex.

I trained in therapeutic and Swedish massage in 1995. In 2010 I completed a two-year training in Psychosexual and Relationship Counselling and in 2011 I studied the Imago Relationship Process. Since then I have given over 10,000 hours or treatments. Rather than offer my bodywork and my counselling experience separately, I saw a benefit to combining these to create an integrative treatment that could both emotionally and practically support men, women, and couples who were experiencing sexual performance problems. I called this treatment Psychosensual Therapy. [Read more]

Sensual Massage

What is a Sensual Massage?

A sensual massage is given with a genuine sense of care and intimacy – incorporating relaxation, pleasure and arousal of the body. It combines traditional therapeutic massage with intended sensual arousal and erotic stimulation. Receiving a sensual massage produces immediate physical and emotional benefits. When we are touched and particularly when receiving sensual, arousing touch, remarkable things happen to our bodies. Doctors and scientific researchers are increasingly discovering the fantastic benefits to health and well-being that regular sexual arousal produces. Here are some facts.  Read More

Summer Group Workshops

Make your summer hotter with one of these unique sensual massage workshops

This August come to learn and have fun at Colin’s sensual massage & erotic foreplay summer workshops

These exclusive workshops are perfect the woman, man or couple who want to enliven and expand their sexual relationship by enhancing their confidence and abilities in giving sensual and erotic pleasure to another.

  • Massage My Man for women who like men
  • Licensed to Thrill for men who like women
  • Touch & Turn on for men who like men
  • Couples – Relight the fire

Foundation & Intermediate levels dependent on your past experience for more details Read More

Orgasms on Sale

Colins work with women featured in Channel 5’s ‘The Sex Business 2018/19

On December 12th 2018 and again on April 1st 2019, Colin and his work as a Sex & Relationship Engineer were featured on Channel 5 TV, in episode 3 of series 2 of The Sex Business, a groundbreaking series of documentaries by award-winning director Paul Blake. The particular episode was titled, ‘Orgasms on Sale’ and focused on women and why they might seek out help or experiences from people in the sex business. Click Here to view the documentary 

What is a Sex Engineer?

In this short video clip, Colin explains how he defines a Sex Engineer.

To watch a further fifteen fascinating video clips when Colin is asked various questions about his work such as:-

  • Do you think regular sexual arousal is good for people?
  • What unusual situations have you experienced?
  • What has led to your success?

Go to Colin’s YouTube channel 

Intimacy X

Register for FREE to immediately get access to:

  • Demonstration video of the Absolute Massage for women.
  • Demonstration video of Premium Massage for men.
  • Description of the Male to Female Absolute’ Massage.
  • Description of the Male to Female Sensual Massage.
  • Description of the Male to Male 90 Minute Sensual Massage.
  • Question and answer section for those things you want to know but are not sure how to ask.
  • Profiles of Associate Masseurs I work with.

Click Here to Register

Intimacy Matters Introductory Video

This video is an example of the treatments that Colin gives. To gain access to more detailed descriptions and videos of the treatments register with Intimacy X and you will be sent a password to access the private area.

Private Workshops

I run various types of private workshops teaching men, women and couples how to improve their knowledge and skills in psychological foreplay, practical sex play and fulfilling lovemaking. These workshops can be tailored to your specific needs and can be arranged at a time to suit your schedule – day, evening or weekends. Based on teaching sensual massage techniques, these workshops give you the chance to practise on selected volunteers (male or female) or your partner. Workshops range from the 2 hour experiential, 5 or 10 hour personal training, to the 20-hour professional training. [Read More]

Womens Group Workshop

A group workshop for women who like men

This unique training will:

Extend the duration your lovemaking by learning the art of giving a sensual massage. Give you an alternative to the fully committed sexual encounter Help you understand and enjoy how your pleasure in giving gives him pleasure also. Enable you to become skilled in fabulous foreplay and arousal techniques that put you in charge. Tease the secret places within his mind and on his body that will send him wild.

With practice on vetted male volunteers, working in pairs to one male volunteer.

For more information and future dates of these workshops – Read More

Mens Group Workshop

A group workshop for men who like women

This unique training will:

  • Teach a man to become an excellent lover.
  • Increase male confidence.
  • Tap into and release masculine primal energy
  • Empower him with specialist knowledge and skills to stimulate a woman.

With practice on vetted female volunteers, working in pairs to one female volunteer.

For more information and future dates of these workshops – Read More

Couples Group Workshop

A group workshop for couples who want to enhance their lovemaking and meet likeminded couples

This unique training will:

•    Extend the duration of your lovemaking by learning the art of giving a sensual massage to one another

•    Give you an understanding and enjoyment in how your pleasure in giving gives them pleasure also

•    Teach you to become skilled in fabulous foreplay and arousal techniques that can transform your sexual relationship

•    Explore how sensual massage can be used to bring others into your sex play without challenging your own relationship.

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Sensual Kittens

A group workshop for women who like women

A series of unique sensual massage workshops for women who want to increase their confidence and abilities in giving pleasure to other women.

This Sensual Kittens training will:

  • Teach you to give a full body sensual massage to another woman.
  • Give you the confidence to intimately explore another woman’s body.
  • Teach you to use your whole body as a sensual instrument.
  • Develop specific skills in erotic arousal of another woman.
  • Explore the psychology of woman to woman erotic intimacy.

With practice on enthusiastic bi sexual female volunteers, working in pairs to one female volunteer.

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Talks & Events

From Chloroform to Clitoris

How I Became a Sex Engineer

A talk by Colin Richards as featured in Channel 5’s The Sex Business 

Date – August 20th 2019

Doors open – 7 pm welcome drink to 10 pm

Price – To be confirmed

Venue –  To be confirmed

Colin gives an entertaining, insightful and hilarious account of his life journey so far that brought him from the wild and windy South Devon coast to skyscraper living in central London, from being sent to boarding school at 8 years old and cooking egg and bacon for a hundred hotel guests to becoming the person women go to with orgasm issues and who couples seek out to help reignite their lives and who men learn from to become more confident lovers. Colin questions – are we led by fate or do we subconsciously steer ourselves into the lives we eventually find ourselves living? What drives us to do what we do? How do the actions of others affect our life path and how can we ensure we live the life that we want, rather than the one that others expect us to live.

To book your place email Colin

Sexual Aesthetics Harley Street London

Dr SW, Sexual Rejuvenation Aesthetics

Sometimes sexual performance challenges and lack of sexual self-confidence can be helped with a combination of treatments that can include both the psychological, the physiological and the surgical. At Dr SW Clinics, Dr Wakil provides a soft surgery approach to helping women and men in reigniting their sex lives. Their mission is to deliver safe and effective minimally-invasive treatments with natural-looking results. They want their patients to walk out of the door looking younger and fresher and feeling as good as they look.

Dr Sherif el Wakil (also known as Dr Sherif Wakil) is the founder and medical director of Dr SW Clinics and Royale Skin Clinics. He has more than two decades of experience and has worked in a number of leading hospitals in the UK and Middle East, including The Royal London Hospital NHS Trust, and is now based on London’s Harley Street. Dr. Wakil has lectured at conferences and meetings around the world and is a fellow of the International College of Surgeons Read More

Temptation Adult Lifestyle Holiday

A new adults-only tour operator has launched in the UK, offering holidays and cruises for the more adventurous traveller.

Temptation Holidays offers trips to boutique resorts in Cancun, Mexico, as well as European and Caribbean cruises for over-21s. Some resorts come equipped with playrooms for “sexual adventurists”.

The tour operator follows another adults-only tour operator, Uniquely Adult, which launched in January with holidays to the Caribbean.

Each Temptation Holidays tour is graded depending on how “adult” it is, under one of the categories “party”, “nude” and “play”.

According to the tour operator, “party” resorts have a lively atmosphere, with “topless optional” areas, that are suitable for groups of friends. “Nude” resorts are the next level up, with designated “clothing optional” areas. Read More

Colette,  April 2019 – Psychosensual Appointment

I was very, very nervous before my first appointment with Colin but he really did put me at my ease. He is knowledgeable, reassuring and completely non-judgemental. He clearly values and enjoys what he does and he made me feel very valued also. I am always worried about men judging me negatively and I never for one second felt that thought even entered Colin’s head. He is professional, considerate and skilled at what he does and I really cannot recommend him highly enough. I have a very negative view of my body and my potential desirability (which I have to say is improving after seeing Colin) and if I can feel reassured and confident with Colin then, honestly, anyone can.

Mary, March 2019 – Psychosensual 

I read about Colin’s 3 hour psychosensual message but it took a few months before I found the courage to contact Colin. I opted to meet Colin for a two hour consultation first – I felt that I needed more time to talk through the issues that are holding me back. Colin put me at ease straight away. I felt very comfortable and able to be honest and open up about my past. 20 years ago, I was sexually assaulted by a stranger who was caught and went to prison. My life completely derailed and I didn’t trust men. I have never dated or been intimate with a guy. It took a long time to work through all the emotional issues but I was still stuck. At 41 years old. I didn’t know how to move forward with any romantic relationship. A total lack of experience, not feeling sexy, desirable, wanted and also not knowing how I could possibly change anything.

That 2 hour conversation has been a real turning point for me. Colin asked me lots of questions and I was surprised by the links he made not only with the assault but also other aspects of my life. He gave me some useful suggestions, practical ways forward and lots of encouragement. I realised that I was as ready as I will ever be to move forward.

I saw Colin two weeks later and had the sensual massage as I was wanted to stay in my comfort zone. It was such a positive experience. I am planning to book further treatments and work with Colin to keep moving forward. I now believe my life can change and I can meet someone and be happy in a relationship and sexually fulfilled. The treatment has made a massive impact already – I am on a dating app and have my first date planned! I can’t thank Colin enough for his help and understanding and most of all, his professional manner.

Gemma, March 2018 The Absolute Massage

I felt really relaxed and tried to disconnect from the day to day activities while you were doing an amazing job! I must say you are very experienced, not that I had lots of guys in my life and would be able to compare but the fact is you made me feel relaxed, you showed care and tenderness. Every little thing you have done was in its place and I actually enjoyed it! It’s been a pleasure meeting you and I want to see you again very soon!

Karl & Mira February 2019 – Couples Watch & Touch
Thank you so much for a truly wonderful experience last Saturday. As soon as we arrived, you made us feel very welcome and completely relaxed.  Watching you massage my partner was both an education and a huge turn on for me and an exquisite experience for her with a fantastic climax. We both left feeling euphoric, relaxed, energised and incredibly aroused – and still, are 4 days later!
We both look forward to seeing you again – either individually or together.

Rachel & Pete March 2018 – Couples Tandem Massage

My partner and I were looking for a sensual experience to share with each other in a safe and warm environment. Colin and Anastasia made us feel really welcome and at ease with conversation and wine before we made our way to the massage room. They were sensitive to our needs as a couple and as individuals – following our flow and astutely aware of when we wanted to come together. The whole experience was a pleasure and it genuinely felt as though Colin and Anastasia enjoyed it as much as we did. We’re already discussing when to return for more!

Clive, February 2019 – Mens Premium Massage

I just wanted to say a late but very big THANK YOU for our meeting last Tuesday.  It was all quite overwhelming (!) but all good.  I didn’t know what to expect but you made me feel welcome and safe.  I enjoyed talking with you so much, especially about anxiety.  My apologies for being anxious and maybe not giving you the fullest answers or even remembering all I meant to tell you.  It was a big relief to tell you the many things I was able to.  The massage was incredible and I feel as if it was helpful in so many ways.  It really seems to have brought me to life.  It made me realise the importance of touch – giving and receiving – and just how much this has been lacking with my sexual partners.  Likewise, your suggestions on things that might help were very helpful and I am currently following up all of them.  What I plan to do is to see how your recommendations work out in practice.  If there are still difficulties (or even if not) I would very much like to see you again, say, within the next couple of months.  It would be fantastic to talk to you again about anxiety and combine this with massage.

Leo,  March 2018 Psychosensual Treatment

Just wanted to thank you again for your time earlier. I was slightly nervous just before going in so probably appeared slightly standoffish – apologies for that. The massage was incredible but what I found really surprising was your ability to understand and decipher my slightly malformed sexuality – something which no psychologist has managed to do back home. Those final 20 minutes chatting to you were quite eye-opening after 40 odd years of feeling that no one understands. I can’t find any service to match this back home, unfortunately, so I might avail of your Skype sessions sometime in the future.

Simona,  March to May 2019  – Psychosensual & Workshop

first met Colin in March 2019. As I wrote in my testimonial after initial visit, it was a real turning point for me…….  Colin is very understanding and I felt able to be open and honest with him. I was also surprised by how much I enjoyed the absolute massage. For me, that was only possible as I trusted Colin and felt comfortable. ……It was a breakthrough experience for me. I am beginning to see a real change in how I feel – it’s exciting and I’m keen to continue with Colin’s help and guidance.

Evelyn, 26yrs – July 2019 – 60 minute Trial Absolute

I went to see Colin because I was curious to know more about my body. I am single and in need of sexual and sensual gratification but I also have problems reaching orgasm. The massage was fantastic, honestly the best sexual experience I’ve had. Spent the rest of the day floating about London. Circulation in extremities is still much better than previously!

Intimate Tutorials

Intimate Tutorials offers on line massage training videos created by Colin