Intimacy Matters

Colin J de C Richards

Sex Engineer & Relationship Therapist

For Men Women & Couples

London Brighton & International

Private & Group Workshops for men women and couples

Discuss, Understand & Improve Your
Sexual & Relationship Dynamics

Experience the health and well being benefits of foreplay and intimate touch

Meet Likeminded People at Group Events

Treatment Rooms in London & Brighton

International Clients by Skype or Special Appointment

Treatment rooms in Moorgate, Vauxhall, Tower Bridge & Brighton


Treatments For Women & Couples

Colin has been providing sensual and psycho-sensual treatments to women and couples since 2008. He works with people of all ages, nationalities, ethnicities and body types. Some are single by choice, some are reluctantly single, many are partnered in loving yet sexually unfulfilling relationships. Others are in relationships where the sex has become just functional, some are in good relationships but need more, sexually. A few are from cultures that restrict sensual and sexual expression and some are simply nervous and naive and lack sexual confidence and knowledge.  To hear how Colin works with these people and to learn more about his unique abilities as a groundbreaking therapist Read More

Group Workshops in Association with Killing Kittens

Colin regularly runs groups workshop for men, women and couples in association with the exclusive adult party organisers Killing Kittens. For more details or to book click on the respective images below.

Next Dates

  • Men only – License To Thrill – June 9th
  • Couples – Sensual massage workshop – June 23rd
  • Women only – Massage My Man – July 28th

Colin Talks Sex

In this 10-minute video interview (15/2/18) recorded for mental health resource charity website of Head Talks Colin advocates that healthy physical and mental well being must include a fulfilling sex life where sexual satisfaction and sensual intimacy can flourish freely without judgement or cultural constraints.

Colin’s services include:

  • private one to one bodywork treatments for relaxation and exploration
  • psycho-sensual treatments for clients who experience sexual performance insecurities or fears who want to become more confident in sex and their relationships
  • mentoring and practical one to one teaching for single men, women and couples on how to improve intimacy sexual confidence and sexual performance
  • group workshops teaching enhanced foreplay skills and sensual arousal
  • face to face or Skype mentoring talking over your situation and finding new ways forward
  • speaking, presenting or demonstrating  at public or private events

Support & Tuition to Improve Sex, Intimacy and Pleasure

Colin gives professional relationship and sexual performance support and training to men women and couples. Face to face mentoring and practical tuition are tools used to enable you to become more confident and aware in your relationship. Read More

Talks & Events

Forthcoming talks & workshops [click here for more details]

  • June 9th – License To Thrill – Mens sensual massage workshop in association with Killing Kittens (male to female)
  • June 23rd  – Couples Sensual Massage workshop in association with Killing Kittens
  • July 28th – Massage My Man – Women sensual massage workshop in association with Killing Kittens (female to male)

Colin’s 3 Sex Tips

Intimacy X is the private area of Intimacy Matters.

Join Intimacy X to:-

  • View a video of Colin’s 3 instant Sex Tips
  • Read the full descriptions of the various treatments
  • Watch video demonstrations of some of the treatments

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Why Some Men Like Men

In his Theory of 5 Influences, Sex Mentor Colin Richards challenges that perception. Informed by his 12 years experience of working with thousands of men who have expressed a broader sexuality plus his subsequent research with two independent surveys Colin presents his arguments and his findings to support his Theory of 5 Influences. Read More

Colin’s Media Coverage

Read how the media view Colins work

Over the past 5 years, my work as a sex engineer and therapist has caught the attention of the media and I have been fortunate to have been featured in some of the most well-known outlets. Cosmopolitan, The BBC,  and recently The Metro and The Independent newspapers to name a few. What is interesting is how over the years the approach and tone of the articles has changed from sceptical and almost judgemental to informative and supportive. From my first 6-page feature in Cosmo in 2015 Would you pay this man £175 to give you an orgasm to the most recent Cosmo article in January 2018 Why these 4 women pay a stranger for orgasmic massages there is strong evidence that at last the importance of having a fulfilling and healthy sex life is being supported by the mainstream press. Read More


Intimacy Matters Introduction Video

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Recent Testimonials

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Faith - Absolute Massage January 2018

I told Colin it has been over two years since I have been sexually charged and active. He was beyond professional and extremely caring and built trust and rapport very quickly. He understood my experiences and took a moment to look and speak with me. I never imagined having such an experience, as a Nigerian woman in my early twenties I needed to learn a lot about my body and my carnal instincts and Colin’s helped me accomplish that. He was extremely thorough and focused on my body and my pleasure. He spent some time educating me on the various historical contexts that shape how women behave sexually and most importantly how women respond to sexual exploration and enjoyment. He delved further into my career and social circles and helped me notice patterns and trends that have an impact on my sexual health. He not only made this a very pleasurable experience but also focused on the therapeutic aspect of our session. Words cannot describe how satisfied I was with this appointment, I strongly encourage any woman that is embarking on a path of self-discovery or simply in need of pleasure with an educational foundation to support the experience. I am travelling back but will come and visit Colin again as soon as I am in London.

Emma - Absolute Massage August 2017

I fully appreciated the time you took to find out the history and reasons why l might have had problems achieving orgasms. It was an eye-opener and I was impressed with your subject knowledge. Although l was nervous to begin with the glass of wine helped! I knew l could totally trust you and knew that l was in your expert hands. I was blown away by the whole experience and for me the icing on the cake achieving that elusive orgasm! It has changed my perception and l am very happy about the experience. I can absolutely recommend you to others and once again a big thank you!

Gemma - Tension Release February 2018

I felt really relaxed and tried to disconnect from the day to day activities while you were doing an amazing job! I must say you are very experienced, not that I had lots of guys in my life and would be able to compare but the fact is you made me feel relaxed, you showed care and tenderness.  Every little thing you have done was in its place and I actually enjoyed it! It’s been a pleasure meeting you and I want to see you again very soon!

Sharon - Female Psychosensual August 2017

Sharon has taken 4 appointments over 2-3 months. One Absolute then a series of three Psychosensual

I spent so many years feeling that I would always remain a caterpillar, never progressing to the next stage. Then I made it to becoming a chrysalis, sadly for many years, this is where I thought I would remain. Encased, frozen in a cocoon for eternity, never knowing what else was out there. Then out of nowhere, I have turned into the most amazing bright, colourful big butterfly. I can now choose where I fly off too, where I land and how long for. I now decide, no longer feeling/allowing myself to be controlled. Pure magic that’s what it is. With your help and guidance, I am now in a place that I thought I would never get too. I am so glad that you do the service that you do.

Clive - Male Psychosensual February 2018

I just wanted to say a late but very big THANK YOU for our meeting last Tuesday.  It was all quite overwhelming but all good.  I didn’t know what to expect but you made me feel welcome and safe.  I enjoyed talking with you so much, especially about anxiety.  My apologies for being anxious and maybe not giving you the fullest answers or even remembering all I meant to tell you.  It was a big relief to tell you the many things I was able to.  The massage was incredible and I feel as if it was helpful in so many ways.  It really seems to have brought me to life.  It made me realise the importance of touch – giving and receiving – and just how much this has been lacking with my sexual partners.  Likewise, your suggestions on things that might help were very helpful and I am currently following up all of them.  What I plan to do is to see how your recommendations work out in practice.  If there are still difficulties (or even if not) I would very much like to see you again, say, within the next couple of months.  It would be fantastic to talk to you again about anxiety and combine this with massage.

Couples Treatments & Workshops

Alex & Sanja – January 2018

Thank you very much for your professionalism and experienced expertise. Your exquisite professional demeanour made it possible for my wife to allow herself to receive an incredible intimate sensual massage. Me being there standing by and later participating in the session made it even more enjoyable and exciting for both of us as a couple and individually. Thank you again and look forward to repeating it when possible.

Karen & Mike – December 2017

Just a quick email to say Thank you to you for yesterday.  You are a great teacher and Keith & I thoroughly enjoyed our time with you. It was lovely to experience the day together and something we will always remember and will endeavour to practice what we have learnt.  Keith is definitely feeling more positive and it has certainly reinforced our intimacy.  He has a spring back in his step!

Intimate Tutorials

Intimate Tutorials offers on line massage training videos created by Colin