Dinner & Decadence 

Couples Only

Saturday 19th March 2022

Social, sensual, sophisticated, professionally hosted, intimate, sexy. This is an event for couples to enjoy to the erotic level that they are most comfortable with or desire. Keep it between yourselves or explore with others. Sensual massage is a great introduction to group intimate play. Maximum people at this events 15 couples plus 5 hosts and team.

To attend any D & D party you do not need to have any experience in giving a massage but simply a love of giving or receiving intimate pleasure.

This couples only party is for a maximum of fifteen mixed or same gender couples or intimate friends. The Dinner & Decadence party is a safe place where guests can engage and explore with other like-minded people in a discreet confidential non pressurised non judgemental environment. The term couple means you attend with a member of the opposite or same sex that you are happy to explore with – this could be a life partner, a friend with benefits or anything in between.


“It was a fun evening. Everyone was welcoming. The restaurant was beautiful and food was amazing. The hosts organised a great event. It was exceptional. Highly recommended.” 5 star

“A totally enlightening experience a first time event for us so we were a little nervous but the evening was fantastic and the first thing we did the next day ( well almost the first ) was go out and buy some quality massage oil we’re now looking at getting a massage table!! Colin Clare and the staff were great and put us at ease.” 5 star

Check out other reviews given by past attendees of the Dinner & Decadence evenings – Click here

What happens at a Dinner & Decadence Party

Whichever the occasion, the D & D couples night, the D & D singles night, the D & D men only or women only night, the evening begins with a welcome reception at 28°- 50°  a fabulous Kings Road restaurant recently featured on the TV show Made In Chelsea. The D & D evenings are limited to an exclusive maximum of thirty guests of all ages with an equal balance of gender ( apart from the same gender D & D events )

The Dinner

Guests arrive between 7.30pm to 7.45pm where they greeted with a glass of champagne by your hosts Colin & Clare who will immediately introduce you to other guests. With the help of a light hearted ice breaker conversation games everyone soon relaxes and makes acquaintance with the other guests. At 8pm guests are ushered into our own private dining area to enjoy a sumptuous three course dinner with coffee, each course paired with a house recommend wine. To ensure you get to meet as many others guests as possible after every course you will move to another table. ( couples remain together ).

The Decadence

After dinner guests are invited walk (or taxi) to the nearby Intimacy Matters residence, a charming bijou Georgian Townhouse about 500m away where the evening continues and where we hope layers will loosen as temperatures continue to rise to boiling point!

Once at the Intimacy Matters residency, guests can choose to sit and relax and continue to chat in the comfortable living room area. For the voyeurs there is a short no holds barred sensual massage demonstration taking place for you to watch.  Guests who are eager to put their erotic massage skills to work there is the first floor massage room where there are three massage beds available. Dim lights, music and plenty of hot oil soon makes this room a must visit place even if just to watch. For guests who like a bit of privacy there is a massage bed in the conservatory and a within the living room annexe. For those guests who want to take things further with there partner or with others there is a Play Room with a super king play bed.  For convenience there are also two bathrooms both with showers and three lavatories. All necessary accessories are provided.

The Principal

In the 17 years that I have worked as a Sex & Relationship Engineer and Sexologist/Masseur,  I have attended quite a few adult events. Also as an ex hotel proprietor of 20 years my frustration is that that often these parties can feel under hosted and mechanical in their execution.  At a D & D evening we strive to give guests an environment where the newly exploring and the experienced adult party goers can feel welcome and to be able to enjoy themselves without pressure or judgement.  First and foremost a D & D party must be a great party and even if nothing intimate happens guests still leave having had a fabulous time. Of course the environment is designed for guests to explore and enjoy intimate erotic play so if anything else occurs ( and mostly it does ) then that is a bonus.

By starting the evening with a delicious dinner it enables guests to get to know one another gently. Attraction is not just physical and the conversation you have at the dinner often leads to something mind blowing after. Discretion and consent is paramount and no-one is expected to become involved in anything they don’t want to be involved in.   Clare and I are at the party throughout and our role is to make sure you all have a fabulous time. With the help of the naked butler and other massages assistants we are constantly checking your welfare and that you are enjoying yourself. We want you to have a fun flirtatious frisky sexually exciting evening.

Ticket price Couples  £250 + the DNM admin charge

This prices include champagne on arrival, 3 course dinner with paired wines with each course, after dinner sexy social including sensual massage exploration with prosecco and soft drinks included.

Application to attend this party

Before anyone can buy a ticket to any party they must complete the D & D application form. Once completed you are sent a link to purchase your ticket.


Maximum 30 people at the event

Location – The Kings Road Chelsea SW3

Nearest Tube – Sloane Square

Dress for dinner – Smart sexy attire

Dress for Decadence – As little as you wish ( robes provided )

Arrival at 28°- 50° Chelsea – 7.30pm

Depart to Intimacy Matters Residence – From 10.30pm

Evening finishes – 3am (if you stay on after 2am remaining guests are encouraged to be fully naturist)

Once you have booked your ticket the programme for your event will be sent to you a couple of days before the event itself together with a guest list introducing you to one another. At this point you will also be invited to join a PRE PARTY CHAT ROOM on Telegram so you can introduce yourself to other guests before meeting them at the Restaurant. If you require a more discreet way to pay for your ticket then email Colin back and I can send you details to send payment by bank transfer or pay by cash into the bank.

Further details

All welcome

This is a mixed gender event and is open to all sexualities. This is a safe space for you to have a fabulous fun flirtatious frisky sexually fulfilling evening, where there are no expectations or pressure to engage in any activity that you are uncomfortable with.


This may mean you take this opportunity to chat and enjoy the company of likeminded people. It may be that you would like to strip off and give and receive sensual massage with your partner or if you feel a wider chemistry you may like to explore erotic touch with others. As long as its fully consensual, what you choose to do and how far you go is up to you. We hope that everyone has a great time but please remember that we all have desires and boundaries that maybe different so before making any approach to anyone check they are open to play and how they like to play.

We recommend you make clear your sexual orientation ie straight, bisexual, heteroflexible or open to explore same gender touch and whether you are comfortable to be touched intimately by someone. No means no!  and anyone not adhering to this will be asked to leave.

Age and body type demographic

We believe that attraction goes far further than just looks and body type and that by having a relaxing dinner with stimulating conversation prior to any intimate activity takes place enables all ages to mix and feel potential chemistry. Experience and wisdom can be just as sexy as toned biceps, pert breasts and a tight bum. The ideal event will have a cross section of ages and physiques.

The ideal event will have a cross section of ages so we allocate places according to these approximate age brackets. 

21 to 30 – 15%

31 to 40 – 30%

41 to 50 – 30%

50 to 60 – 15%

60 to 65 – 10%

We hope that everyone has a great time but please remember that we all have desires and boundaries that maybe different so before making any approach to anyone check they are open to play and how they like to play.

Tryon House

Living Room

How to attend a Dinner & Decadence event


  1. To attend any D & D event you must first complete an APPLICATION FORM

This is applicable for all events whether you have attended one before out not.

Buying Tickets

  1. Once your application form is received and providing we still have the relevant places available you will be sent the link to purchase your ticket on line or with special arrangement by bank transfer. Places are limited to 30 persons with equal gender balance 
  2. Places are NOT confirmed until payment is received
  3. Once payment is made you will be sent a receipt and a few days before the event the evening programme and guest list will be made available to you.
  4. At this point you will also be invited to join a PRE PARTY CHAT ROOM on Telegram so you can introduce yourself to other guest before meeting them at the Restaurant.

Be kept informed

Or if you just want to be kept informed about future Dinner & Decadence events you can Register Here

No vetting of age or physique

There is no vetting of attendees but we will always balance male and female numbers, and a good spread of ages if appropriate.

However since these events are proving to be very popular we may limit the places given to regulars so that new comers can also enjoy the events and we do reserve the right to refuse applications without giving reason.

Cancellation terms

Up to 24 hours before – If you wish to cancel the booking and written notice is given up to 24 hours before the event date then your payment will be fully refunded

Within 24 hours – Because the restaurant has been paid if you cancel within 24 hours and of the event date then there is NO REFUND OR TRANSFER TO OTHER EVENTS

No show at event – If you are a no show then there is NO REFUND OR TRANSFER TO OTHER EVENTS

Massage play room with three massage beds

The conservatory massage room

Your hosts – Colin & Clare

Also attending is The Naked Butler & Butleress ( example images )

Example menu

menu –this is subject to change

 Non alcoholic options and specific dietary requirements are also available to be catered for on request.

To ask a questions email Colin at colin@intimacymatters.co.uk

Recommended nearby hotels

Sloane Place

Sloane Square Hotel

11 Cadogan Gardens

Premier Inn Battersea