Frequently Asked Questions By Couples 

General Questions:

What is a couple’s sensual massage experience?

A couple’s sensual massage experience can be a massage given to one of the couple while the other watches, or a tandem massage with the couple lying side by side. The massage is given by two masseurs (2 males or a male and a female). Whatever you select, the massage experience is provided with a genuine sense of care and intimacy – involving relaxation, pleasure and arousal of the body. Sensual massage offers both physical and emotional benefits and takes a humanistic approach to sensual and erotic arousal. It focuses on giving recipients an authentic, full-body therapeutic massage that combines traditional massage strokes with intentionally arousing techniques. These are aimed at slowly relaxing and simultaneously stimulating the receiver. Other than occasional instructions, the massage is usually given in silence, but natural sounds of arousal are encouraged. The sensual massage usually leads to orgasm, but without any pressure or expectation to do so. As well as being pleasurable, the massage can also help people with sexual performance challenges, fears around intimacy, loss of libido, sexual frustration and.

Colin offers various types of sensual massage for couples

The Watch & Enjoy, The Watch & Touch, , One After the Other, The Tandem Massages and The Psychosensual Treatment

How can we be sure we won’t experience something we don’t want or like? 

Whatever couples massage experience you select, I always make sure I fully understand your motivation and desires. If the female of the couple is to receive the massage, she must complete an Authorisation & Request Form before the appointment. There is also a form that the male partner can complete, but it is optional.   This form enables the couple to indicate any areas they want me to focus on, as well as clarify their boundaries, preferences, and desires for the massage. With its zero-to-ten scoring section, the Authorisation & Request Form enables you to create your ideal experience. Scoring 10 means you definitely want something included; scoring zero means you don’t like this included, with three, five and eight as levels to help you indicate what type and intensity of erotic arousal you want to explore. The form also acts as legal authority for me to give this massage.

How can I ensure confidentiality and discretion?

I have been giving sensual massage for 20 years, and for the past 10 years, particularly to couples. Those who come to me do so for many reasons, but almost all require discretion and confidentiality. Some couples to explore new sensations, some to reenergise their sexual relationship, some for same gender exploration. Some men like to watch their female partners enjoy the experience, some women want to experience another man’s skill at arousal, but with their partner present. Truly, there are many motivations.
I can guarantee that I do everything I can to maintain confidentiality, and to date, there has never been an issue. Clients can give me a false name and do not need to tell me anything they do not want to about themselves. If I met clients by chance in public, I would ignore them unless they spoke to me first. I never meet my clients socially unless they are attending an event or a talk I may be giving.
What do you need from us?
When booking, I need your mobile number and an email address.  I also need to be sure that both of you are fully supportive of taking the massage and that neither of you is being persuaded by the other. I never give surprise appointments.

How do I view the Authorisation & Request Form?

To request the Authorisation & Request Form email colin@intimacymatters.co.uk 

Where are you located?

My treatment studio is located just off Sloane Square, Chelsea, London. There is complete privacy and quiet. The full address will be given on confirmation of your appointment. For women and couples, and by prior arrangement, I am happy to come to your location (hotel or home); if a massage table is not available, I will require the use of a bed or futon/cushions on the floor. Travel costs and extra time will be charged for.

We have had a Tantric massage before or heard of it, is this the same?

It is similar in that it allows you to explore your sexual and sensual energies safely and discreetly. However, I prefer to describe my approach as humanistic, since this experience focuses on us as sensual and sexual beings rather than spiritual. The massage is about taking us back to our deepest feelings of intimacy, sensuality and arousal, and does not include any spiritual aspects such as ritual, breathing exercises or meditation.

Read the explanation of what sensual massage is all about

Can we cancel the appointment?

Yes, you can cancel at any time, but if cancelled within 24 hours, then any deposit paid (£50) is retained. If you are a regular client and have not paid a deposit, a donation of £50 to cover lost business is gratefully accepted. If you have paid for the appointment in full in advance, it is usually held and transferred to another suitable date within six months.

Do you have any testimonials or feedback from previous clients I can read?

Yes, I use Ekomi to read over 300 5-star reviews via this link

These were given freely and spanned years. You are welcome to give your own feedback after your appointment.

We are very interested in coming along for a treatment, but we are feeling nervous and also uncertain about which treatment to choose. What might be my next step? 

I offer every first-time client the option of calling me for a free 15-minute phone chat. In this call, you can ask me any questions and explain your reasons for wanting to come in for an appointment as a couple. Together, we can figure out the best option for you. To arrange this cal,l just text or WhatsApp me on 07966 522 696.

Is it possible to see a demonstration of the couples massage before committing to booking an appointment? 

At the moment no as I have not filmed this yet but you can request to see a detailed 10-minute demonstration of the Absolute Massage for women and the Premium massage for men, combine this and you have a couple scenario.

Do you give home or hotel visits?

I always prefer to see you at my treatment room, but if this is impossible due to disability or distance and timing, then I am happy to discuss alternatives.

Can we spread payments for a series of appointments?

Yes, I can arrange this, ask.

I want everyone to have access to sensual massage, so I will do my best to accommodate your budget. If you are a student or unemployed, I will need proof of your status to give a discount. You will need to fit in with my available times for the appointmen,t which are usually mornings between 9 am and 1 pm.

Do you offer better rates for regular treatments?

Yes I do

Questions about the content of the massage:

Most of the answers below apply to the Absolute but answers that are NOT relevant to the Intimacy Massage (less intimate than the Absolute and is surface arousal only) are asterisked below (*) in red.

What are the differences between the Absolute, Exploration and the Intimacy Massages for women given in a couple’s experience?

The Absolute massage is the ultimate erotic massage, and by completing the Absolute Authorisation & Request Form, it can be tailored to your requirements. Generally, clients like to include both external stimulation and internal stimulation, but this massage can also include specific erotic arousal that a client may want to explore. The Exploration and  Intimacy Massage are lighter in its arousing content.

If I wanted you to, would you undress us before the massage?

No, after meeting you and a brief conversation, I leave you to undress and take a shower. I return to the room once you are both lying on the treatment bed, or if just one of you is taking the massage, then the other is sitting on the sofa nearby. The watcher can be fully dressed, partially dressed or naked.

Do you give body-to-body contact?

The massage, by nature, involves body-to-body contact. In addition to using my hands, I also use my arms, elbows, and, if appropriate, my body weight, although this can be adjusted to suit your comfort. If the couple massage is a tandem, then the female masseur also gives body-to-body*

Are the masseurs clothed or naked when giving the massage?

We can remain clothed or be naked (if naked only for the second half of the massage) – whatever makes you most comfortable. You would specify your preferences on the Authorisation & Request Form before your appointment.

Can we touch you during the massage?

The nature of this massage is about intimacy and trust – ultimately, it’s up to you. For some people, it’s crucial to receive touch without having to give back, while others prefer a more reciprocal experience. The choice is yours and can be indicated on the Authorisation & Request Form.

How is the vaginal stimulation given?

This is given with hands and fingers or, if requested, with a sex toy. The type and intensity of both the clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be indicated when you complete the Authorisation & Request form. Clitoral stimulation is given in phases 2 & 3 of the massage, with vaginal stimulation (both external and internal) given in phases 3 & 4. The depth and intensity of the vaginal stimulation are guided by yo,u but I aim to follow your responses as the massage progresses.

How is the male arousal given?

This is given by hand but through the massage the male is edged so when taking a tandem massage the couple usually orgasm simultaneously.

Can we talk to you during the massage?

Of course you can. On arrival, if you feel it helps, we can chat about the treatment for a few minutes before you take a shower, and at the beginning of the massage, it’s also fine to talk. Once the massage is underway, however, its best to refrain from conversation and use the hand-holding method to communicate how you feel during the massage. I will explain this when you get here.

Do you kiss during the massage?

This can be indicated on the Authorisation & Request Form*

We can make quite a bit of noise when we are turned on – is that a problem?

Not at all. Women are programmed to make noise when aroused; it is the female mating call. I encourage you to be as vocal as you like and to express your pleasure however you like. As a man and your masseur, I do my best to make it as good for you as possible. The more you respond, the more I can confidently give.

We are concerned that when turned o,n we might cross your boundaries?

Good erotic stimulation between people in whatever circumstances relies on good communication. If there is something you feel you want to do or say, then go ahead, as we won’t be offended. If it falls beyond our personal boundaries, we will gently say so, but our boundaries are pretty wide!*

Is anal stimulation an option?

Again, this can be indicated by the Authorisation & Request form, stating your preference for external only, internal or not to be included at all. *

Will you use any toys or vibrators on us?

This is your choice, and I do have several vibrators, but I only bring them into the massage it the client has requested the use of them. You can also bring your own.

Can you include any fetish or role play?

We are happy to include some light domination, but anything more specific should be discussed when booking the appointment. *

Are you healthy?

Yes, we take regular sexual health checks, and since this is my main work, I always maintain a high level of personal health and hygiene. I expect this of my clients, too.

If I wanted, would you give special requests?*

We are happy to consider special requests. Please email these separately, and Colin will reply with my thought.s

Do you allow Poppers?

No, we do not see clients who are using poppers or who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

Do you give four-hand massages for couples?

Yes, we can arrange a four hands massage with either another male or a female masseur – see 4 hands options under [Intimate Consultations].

Other Questions:

Do we need to pay a deposit?

For first-time bookings, I usually require a £50 deposit paid by bank transfer, PayPal, or cash at the bank.  This ensures your authenticity and also covers my time should you change your mind and cancel altogether. If you feel unable to pay a deposit, then I require you to phone me so I can verify your identity.

Do I get a refund of my deposit if I cancel?

I do not issue deposit refunds for late cancellations, but I am happy to keep the deposit on the account and reallocate it to another appointment, workshop, or event. Deposits are not required for 2nd or future appointments.

Can we arrive early?

No, please arrive at the time you booked your appointment.

What if we are running late?

Just send me a text or email to keep me informed, as I may have to make adjustments to later appointments.

What if we need to cancel?

Not a problem – even if last minute – but please do send me a text and tell me.

Can we take a shower?

If you have not showered within 1 hour of the start of your appointment, please take a full-body shower before receiving the massage. You are also welcome to take another shower following the massage.

Can we have a glass of wine when I arrive?

Sometimes this helps the nerves, and yes – I am happy to offer you a glass of wine or water on arrival. Red or White?

Do you need anything from us?

I want you to be yourself – to feel free to express your emotions, desires, and fantasies without restriction. To be who you want to be and to do what you want to do.