What is a Female-to-Female Sensual Massage – And Is It for You?
My name is Eris, and I’m a female-to-female sensual masseuse.
What does that mean?
Let’s start with the basics.
Sensual massage, also known as erotic massage, is an intimate form of bodywork. It’s designed to stimulate and awaken the receiver’s entire body, mind, and emotions through physical touch and sensory engagement, including genital arousal and body-to-body contact. In a female-to-female massage, the receiver also experiences the benefits of connecting intimately with another woman (the masseuse).
My sensual massage is a 90-minute full-body massage that gradually turns erotic. It’s tailored to the receiver’s desires and boundaries and is delivered at hotels in Liverpool, Manchester, and London city centres.
I am a woman who works exclusively with women and have trained with Colin Richards of Intimacy Matters specifically in the art of arousing and satisfying the female body.
One of my aims in my work is to bring sensual massage to the women who would get the most out of it but may not have considered it as an option because sex professionals don’t usually cater to them. Is that you? Let’s look at some of the underserved groups who would benefit from female-to-female sensual massage.
Bisexual or bicurious women, single or coupled
A common problem for the bisexual or bicurious woman is having her attraction to women erased in a world where monogamous, heterosexual relationships are the norm. She’s happy with her man – or happy to be with a man if the right one comes along – but still longs for the freedom to explore and express her full sexuality. She’s considered coming out as bisexual or proposing to open her relationship, yet the uncomfortable conversations that might lead to don’t always seem worth it when she already has a good relationship or isn’t even sure of her attraction to other women.
What such a woman needs is a safe setting where she can experience intimacy with another woman to get – or stay – in touch with her sapphic identity without the drama.
Sensual massage is perfect for this. Since the massage is all about female-to-female touch rather than connection with a specific person, it’s the optimal chance to erotically experience the archetypal woman – the feel of a woman’s skin and shape, the techniques used in lesbian lovemaking, and the opportunity to reciprocate by trying out giving as well as receiving.
Neurodivergent women
A queer woman with autism, ADHD, and/or another neurodevelopmental condition can have many barriers to a satisfying sex life. Her social difficulties can make it hard to meet potential partners, especially when other queer people are few and far between. On top of that, her sensory differences can mean she enjoys types of stimulation most people don’t but can’t tolerate types of stimulation others consider common. All of this, and more, can complicate her sexual exploration with herself or others.
As a result, she may deal with anorgasmia, sexual anxiety and avoidance, vaginismus, and other kinds of sexual dysfunction. Or she may be more sexually open than most neurotypicals but unable to find outlets for her unique desires.
While therapy can be needed to overcome some of these hurdles, what a neurodivergent woman often needs is simply a chance to explore her body’s responses through touch by (and maybe with) a sympathetic giver in a soothing sensory environment, with no relationship or other social demands. This is what sensual massage offers.
The room is dim, relaxing music plays, and there’s plenty of foreplay through therapeutic massage techniques to get her warmed up to her full potential. There’s no pressure to perform, no judgment, and she receives and initiates sexual touch on her own terms, with clear, guided communication about desires and boundaries before and during the massage.
As an autistic lesbian woman, I’m passionate about providing neurodivergent women with opportunities like this. With the right conditions, their social and sensory struggles can become sexual strengths, and they can blossom into powerful forces of eroticism.
Inexperienced women
A woman who likes women can be sexually inexperienced relative to her age for a variety of reasons. She might have discovered her sexual orientation later in life – or discovered it long ago but been unable to come out safely or find suitable partners. She might have social anxiety. She might have spent many years focused on other aspects of life, such as her career or family.
The list goes on. But when I meet just about any woman who wishes she had more sexual experience, my first thought is that she would learn so much from a sensual massage.
Many inexperienced women are insecure about their lack of knowledge of how to please themselves or a partner. In a sensual massage, there are no expectations, only learning opportunities. The learning starts with the pre-massage questionnaire, where the receiver specifies the types of erotic touch, toys, and reciprocation she wants to experiment with. This already gets her thinking about her erotic likes, dislikes, and not-sures. During the massage itself, she can safely experience her desires and come away with a new awareness of her body’s unique arousal patterns.
Want to learn more?
The above are just a few types of women I work with. Trans and non-binary people looking to connect with their femininity, women experiencing sexual dysfunction, adventurous women itching to try something new, and straight women who want an erotic massage but aren’t comfortable receiving it from a man are a few more ideal types of receivers.
Get in touch for a no-obligation chat at sensualfemininebodywork@gmail.com or +447873703001. Learn more about my offerings at sensualfemininebodywork.com
