Introduction from Colin
Like many of us, I found the Sex Education series brilliant. How it combined the subject of sex with humour and drama and, at the same time, being informative and supportive of sexuality, in general, was genius. I look forward to a fourth series.
One of the main characters in the series was Dr Jean Milburn, played by the excellent Gillian Anderson. Being a sex therapist (sex engineer), I was impressed by how her character brought maturity and normalness to the sexuality depicted in the series.
As many of my clients will know, for the past 18 years of my work, normalising sex has been my passion in my career. Helping women, men, and couples understand and explore their sexuality to become mentally and physically healthier, happier, and whole human beings. I have always taken a humanistic approach to sex and intimacy. When I work with a client, I do so by looking at the biological, psychological, emotional, anthropological and pleasurable aspects of sex.
This philosophy is particularly relevant in helping women explore their sexual dynamics. I have now worked with over 1000 women, both psychologically and practically. Anorgasmia ( I can’t cum at all and never have), situation anorgasmia ( I can’t cum with someone else in the room), fear of sex, fear of intimacy, exploring fantasies, lack of fulfilment, re-negotiating my sex life with my partner, cultural and religious influences to name just a few.
In working with these women, I understand that female sexuality is deeply profound. Men may think they are the sexual champions, but in reality, women lead the field because they know that good sex is not a race to the finish line but a journey of adventure and discovery without a necessary goal. This is why I want to help Gillian achieve her passion for writing a book that applauds the sexual fantasies and erotic imaginations of women. I firmly believe that when women are free to express their sexuality without guilt and judgment, the world can become a better place.
If you do want to have your fantasy or sexual adventure included in Gillian’s book and decide to write anonymously to her. If you have also been a client of mine or taken a class with me that has benefited your sex life or life in general, I would be most grateful if you could mention this to Gillian. I feel I have much to tell her that could help her have an even deeper understanding of women and sex.
You can submit your fantasies at Dear Gilian until midnight on 28th February.
Gillian Anderson is writing a book on women and sexuality and wants to hear women’s fantasies.
The Sex Education actress has been inspired to collect the deepest and most personal erotic thoughts of her female contemporaries. Gillian Anderson is having a life-imitates-art moment if her Sex Education character is anything to go by. Anderson, 54, plays uninhibited sex therapist Jean Milburn in the show, a character with an easy attitude towards physical intimacy and a ready willingness to discuss intercourse without fear of judgement. In announcing her new project, Gillian has also called for women to write to her personally with their sexual fantasies and stories – some of which will be published in the book. She says of her call for personal entries: “The ‘Dear Gillian’ project will form a generation-defining book, compiling your anonymous letters to me to explore how women think about sex. In any language, I am asking for letters of around 1,000 (but no more than 2,500) words describing your most intimate, private sexual fantasies. Open your letter with ‘Dear Gillian,’ and let your imagination run wild. I will, of course, also share my own.”