About Colin

Colin’s Personal Details

• Height – 6ft
• Weight – 90Kg
• Gender – Male
• Build – Muscular
• Eyes – Blue
• Nationality – British
• Ethnicity – Caucasian
• Location – Chelsea Central London
• Sexuality – Heteroflexible
• Latest all-clear STI test April 2024
• Status – Divorced and now partnered for past ten years with Clare
• Children – Five, all aged over 21
• Grandchildren – Four

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The question I am asked most often is,

“How did you get into this line of work?”

I was born in Beckenham, Kent, London, with a heritage that blends London and Irish roots. In the early 1960s, my family relocated to the scenic South West of the UK, where my parents managed the renowned Gara Rock Hotel in Salcombe, South Devon. Growing up in this beautiful 130-bed hotel, I was immersed in an environment that allowed me to interact with a diverse range of people—guests, suppliers, and their families. It was a dynamic experience, often feeling like a real-life version of Fawlty Towers, but it instilled in me the ability to understand and relate to others on a personal level.

At the age of 22, when my parents retired, I took over as the Managing Director of the hotel. For the next 20 years, I wore many hats—managing operations, overseeing HR, serving as an entertainment host, and even stepping into roles as a chef, plumber, or decorator during the off-season. This hands-on experience cultivated my interpersonal and management skills, preparing me for my future career.

In 2002, I made the decision to leave the hospitality industry, driven by a desire to help others on a more personal level. I pursued training in life coaching and therapeutic massage at The Association of Natural Medicine in Totnes, followed by a two-year program in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy at Regent’s College in London. Further certifications in Imago Education, NLP, and Hypnotherapy rounded out my expertise. With these skills, I moved to London in 2005, embarking on a new journey as a Sensual Massage Therapist and Sexual Performance and Relationship Mentor.

I soon recognized a growing need for discreet, practical guidance in people’s sexual lives, which led me to establish Intimacy Matters. My practice combines talk therapy with sensual bodywork, offering a unique approach to help individuals and couples navigate issues of sexual confidence, performance, and intimacy. Since 2005, I have worked with over 8,000 clients, empowering them to overcome challenges such as sexual frustration, performance anxiety, libido imbalances, and relationship conflict.

As a master masseur, I’ve developed techniques to extend lovemaking and enhance sexual fulfillment, providing specialized training for individuals and couples of all orientations. I am particularly known for helping women overcome difficulties in reaching orgasm and addressing libido issues. This dedication earned me a finalist spot in the 2024 Sexual Freedom Awards in the category of Somatic Sexologist.

In addition to my hands-on work, I frequently participate in podcasts, Zoom presentations, and public speaking events, where I discuss topics such as intimacy, the importance of touch, and building fulfilling relationships. My approach to alternative sexual education is down-to-earth and accessible, offering people practical tools to embrace their sensuality without judgment.

Through Intimacy Matters, I’ve created a welcoming and supportive space for clients to explore and resolve their psychosexual concerns. Based in Sloane Square, Chelsea, I offer my services both locally and internationally, providing workshops, mentorship, and private sessions. My work has been featured in prominent media outlets such as BBC World Service, Channel 5, Cosmopolitan, and The Times. I’ve also hosted Intimacy Matters Presents events at premier venues like Home House and Century Club, and launched the Dinner & Decadence parties in 2021.

I have five adult children (two sons and three daughters) from my 17-year marriage. I have been in a 10-year relationship with my partner Clare, my best friend, compatriot, lover and guide. We’re an outgoing and sociable couple who enjoy attending gatherings, talks, restaurants and the theatre. I am health conscious and maintain an active lifestyle by swimming and cycling regularly.

Watch

Interview with Rebecca Dakin – The Great British Sexpert

Rebecca visits Colin for her own Absolute Massage treatment and here is her video discussing her experience.

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Colin’s treatments are featured in this Cosmopolitan Podcast

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Broadcaster Jackie Walker talks to Colin about massage & sensuality.

Part 1 – Interview with Colin

Part 2 – What women need to know

Part 3 – Emotional Release

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The Making of a Maverick: The Birth of a Sex Engineer -Interview with Journalist, Chrissie Rowell Interview with Colin with renowned American Sex Blogger, CJ Asher

Colins Podcasts & Youtube Channel

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Training & Qualifications

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Sexual Freedom Awards 2024 May 

Colin – Finalist in the category of Somatic Sexologist,

Colin’s nomination for Somatic Sexologist of the Year is well-deserved, given his exceptional contributions in representing the profound intersection of intimacy, healing, acceptance, and exploration within the realm of sex and relationships.

His work in the field has not only broken new ground but has also become a beacon for individuals seeking a holistic approach to their sexual well-being. One of Colin’s standout qualities is his emphasis on somatic experiences in the realm of sexuality.

By recognizing the inherent connection between the mind and body, he has elevated the discourse around somatic sexology. Colin advocates for a comprehensive understanding of sexuality that goes beyond the physical act, emphasizing the importance of connecting with one’s body and sensations as a means of fostering genuine intimacy. In addressing intimacy matters, Colin’s approach is rooted in the belief that somatic experiences play a pivotal role in creating meaningful connections.

Through workshops and educational initiatives, he guides individuals on a journey of self-discovery, encouraging them to explore the nuances of their bodies and connect with their partners on a deeper, more profound level. His teachings provide a roadmap for individuals to navigate the intricate landscape of intimacy with mindfulness and intention. Colin’s work also underscores the therapeutic potential of somatic exploration in the process of healing.

He acknowledges that individuals may carry emotional and psychological burdens related to their sexuality, and through somatic practices, he empowers them to address and overcome these challenges. His counseling sessions and workshops create safe spaces for individuals to engage in healing through embodied experiences, fostering a sense of self-acceptance and liberation.

Furthermore, Colin advocates for the acceptance of diverse sexual experiences. His inclusive approach ensures that individuals from various backgrounds, identities, and orientations feel represented and validated. By promoting a culture of acceptance, he contributes to the broader narrative of breaking down stigmas and challenging societal norms that can be restrictive and harmful to individuals exploring their sexuality.

Colin’s commitment to the exploration of sexuality is evident in his promotion of a sex-positive and curiosity-driven mindset. He encourages individuals to embrace their desires, preferences, and fantasies without judgment. This exploration, guided by somatic principles, allows individuals to navigate their own sexual landscapes authentically, fostering a sense of empowerment and agency in their intimate lives. In conclusion,

Colin’s nomination as Somatic Sexologist of the Year reflects his exceptional contributions to the field, particularly in representing the interconnected aspects of intimacy, healing, acceptance, and exploration through sex and relationships. His innovative approach has not only expanded the horizons of somatic sexology but has also positively impacted individuals on their journeys toward a more fulfilling and authentic sexual well-being.

Awarding him this title would recognize not only his past achievements but also the transformative potential of somatic sexology in fostering a more holistic and empowered approach to sexuality.