Colin Richards

Sex & Intimacy Engineer & Somatic Sexologist

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Colin is a member of The Association of Somatic & Integrative Sexologists

As a full-time practitioner since July 2005, I have helped over 8000 clients improve their sexual confidence and gain a broader understanding of their partner’s and others’ sexuality to enhance their personal and intimate lifestyles. I have achieved this by offering sensual massage treatmentspsychosensual treatments, counselling, sensual massage classes and group workshops. I believe that a person’s sexuality is a cornerstone of what makes them who they are. If that cornerstone is not sitting comfortably, the whole self can feel unstable. So whether a person has a direct issue to overcome, wants to know more about their sexual potential, or helps with a sexual incompatibility within a relationship, then I can help. When I work with a person’s sexuality, I take into account all aspects of the human sexual dynamic. The biological, psychological, social, anthropological, emotional and reproductive drivers that make us the sexual beings we are. Sometimes, these drivers can be out of balance or not working well at all, which can cause frustrations and conflict, sometimes leading to ill health, both in body and mind. Currently, Colin has over three hundred 5 Star reviews from satisfied clients – Read them here 

Introduction by Colin

I work with single women, men and couples of any age and orientation. To list a few of the more frequent aspects I help people with, they include; relationship conflict, finding the right partner, reawakening one’s sex life, sexual frustration, lack of sexual experience, sexual performance challenges (inability to orgasm, erectile issues), fear of sex, experiencing sexual complacency in a relationship, and particularly for women exploding libido or low libido.

I created Intimacy Matters in 2012, and since then, I have worked with over 10,000 people in many aspects of their relationships and sexuality. My approach to sex and intimacy is best described as humanistic, and I look at the biological, psychological, social, anthropological and erotic influences behind our sensual desires, curiosities and fears. My treatments include sensual massage, psychosensual treatments, and relationship counselling, and I run individual training and group workshops to enhance sexual confidence and foreplay knowledge and skills. I give public and online Zoom talks and run my own social events.

I am based in Sloane Square, Chelsea Central London SW1X 9DE , UK.

Colin’s Training and Qualifications

Association of Natural Medicine – Therapeutic Massage Anatomy & Physiology – 1993
Co-Active Life Coaching Level 2 – 1998
Certified (2 years) in Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy – 2010
Imago Relationship Educator – The Imago Institute – 2012
Cert in NLP & Hypnotherapy – Contemporary College of Therapeutic Studies – 2013

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Colin’s Personal Details

  • Height – 6ft
  • Weight – 90Kg
  • Gender – Male
  • Build – Muscular
  • Eyes – Blue
  • Nationality – British
  • Ethnicity – Caucasian
  • Location – Chelsea Central London
  • Sexuality – Heteroflexible
  • Latest all-clear STI test April 2024
  • Status – Divorced and now partnered for past ten years with Clare
  • Children – Five, all aged over 21
  • Grandchildren – Four

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The question I am asked most often is,

“How did you get into this line of work?”

I was born in Beckenham, Kent, London, UK, and though British, my heritage is a mix of London and Irish ancestry. In the early 1960s, my parents moved to the South West of the UK, where they managed the renowned Gara Rock Hotel in Salcombe, South Devon. Growing up in this 130-bed hotel, I was surrounded by one of the most picturesque coastal locations in the UK. This environment allowed me to interact with a diverse group of people, from guests and suppliers to fellow children and their parents. It was a bit like living in a larger version of Fawlty Towers.

At 22, when my parents retired, I became the Managing Director of the hotel, a role I held for the next 20 years. My upbringing had prepared me well for this position, and over the years, I wore many hats: day-to-day manager, food and beverage buyer, HR manager for up to 40 staff, entertainment host, relief chef, barman, waiter, receptionist, and even plumber and decorator during the off-season. This variety of roles honed my interpersonal skills, making it second nature to relate to people.

In 2002, I left the hospitality industry, realizing that a conventional 9-to-5 job wasn’t for me. I pursued a passion for helping others by training as a life coach and therapeutic masseur at The Association of Natural Medicine in Totnes, Devon. This was followed by a two-year program in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy at Regent’s College in London, and further certifications in Imago Education, NLP, and Hypnotherapy. Armed with these qualifications and my unique skill set, I moved to London in 2005 and began working as a Sensual Massage Therapist and Sexual Performance and Relationship Mentor.

I quickly noticed a significant need for discreet, practical support and guidance in people’s sex lives. This realization led me to start Singles and Couples Therapy, which combines talk therapy with sensual bodywork. My business grew rapidly through client recommendations, and since 2005, I have assisted over 8,000 men and women. The past decade has been particularly fulfilling, both personally and professionally, as I’ve gained profound insights into various psychosexual issues.

As a master masseur, I have developed techniques to extend lovemaking by enhancing foreplay and sexual fulfilment, running individual training sessions for men, women, and couples of all sexualities. I also have a reputation for assisting women with challenges in reaching orgasm and addressing unsatisfied libido. These specialized skills and my dedication to helping others led me to be a finalist in the Sexual Freedom Awards 2024 in the category of Somatic Sexologist.

I often participate in podcasts and Zoom presentations, discussing themes like the complexities of intimacy, building fulfilling relationships, and the importance of touch in our daily lives. Many of my clients struggle with feelings of isolation or frustration, often rooted in self-criticism and judgmental attitudes formed in childhood. Their stories inspire me to find meaningful ways to help them. My approach to teaching alternative sexual education is straightforward, down-to-earth, and open.

As an educator, teacher, and mentor on sexual issues, I’ve created a welcoming environment for people to discuss their psychosexual concerns and gain practical tools to embrace their sensuality. I share my message across various platforms, whether as a massage therapist, sex mentor, consultant, event speaker, or workshop leader. Based in Chelsea, Central London, I am also available to travel across the UK and abroad for client sessions and workshops.

I have hosted many Intimacy Matters Presents events at premier private members’ clubs in London, such as Home House and Century Club. My work has been featured in national media outlets, including the BBC World Service, Channel 5, Mail Online, Cosmopolitan, Daily Mirror, I-News, The Times, The Independent, and Reveal magazine. I also give regular public talks on sex and relationships through the Funzing community. In December 2018, I was featured in Channel 5’s documentary series “The Sex Business,” and in July 2021, I launched the Intimacy Matters Dinner & Decadence parties in Chelsea, London. In January 2024, Intimacy Matters moved to Sloane Square, Chelsea, and introduced the Sensual Social monthly event. This July, we will be guest presenters at Swingathon Festival 2024.

 My background

Colin RIchards

I have five adult children (two sons and three daughters) from my 17-year marriage. I have been in a 10-year relationship with my partner Clare, my best friend, compatriot, lover and guide. We’re an outgoing and sociable couple who enjoy attending gatherings, talks, restaurants and the theatre. I am health conscious and maintain an active lifestyle by swimming and cycling  regularly


Interview with Rebecca Dakin – The Great British Sexpert

Rebecca visits Colin for her own Absolute Massage treatment and here is her video discussing her experience.


Colin’s treatments are featured in this Cosmopolitan Podcast

Cosmopolitan Podcast Episode 1 – featuring Colin’s treatments for women.

We meet Cee Cee, a woman who gets regular Absolute orgasmic massages because she wants to build up her confidence and gain more sexual experience.

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Broadcaster Jackie Walker talks to Colin about massage & sensuality.

Part 1 – Interview with Colin

Part 2 – What women need to know

Part 3 – Emotional Release


The Making of a Maverick: The Birth of a Sex Engineer -Interview with Journalist, Chrissie Rowell Interview with Colin with renowned American Sex Blogger, CJ Asher

Colins Podcasts & Youtube Channel

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Training & Qualifications

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Sexual Freedom Awards 2024 May 

Colin – Finalist in the category of Somatic Sexologist,

Colin’s nomination for Somatic Sexologist of the Year is well-deserved, given his exceptional contributions in representing the profound intersection of intimacy, healing, acceptance, and exploration within the realm of sex and relationships.

His work in the field has not only broken new ground but has also become a beacon for individuals seeking a holistic approach to their sexual well-being. One of Colin’s standout qualities is his emphasis on somatic experiences in the realm of sexuality.

By recognizing the inherent connection between the mind and body, he has elevated the discourse around somatic sexology. Colin advocates for a comprehensive understanding of sexuality that goes beyond the physical act, emphasizing the importance of connecting with one’s body and sensations as a means of fostering genuine intimacy. In addressing intimacy matters, Colin’s approach is rooted in the belief that somatic experiences play a pivotal role in creating meaningful connections.

Through workshops and educational initiatives, he guides individuals on a journey of self-discovery, encouraging them to explore the nuances of their bodies and connect with their partners on a deeper, more profound level. His teachings provide a roadmap for individuals to navigate the intricate landscape of intimacy with mindfulness and intention. Colin’s work also underscores the therapeutic potential of somatic exploration in the process of healing.

He acknowledges that individuals may carry emotional and psychological burdens related to their sexuality, and through somatic practices, he empowers them to address and overcome these challenges. His counseling sessions and workshops create safe spaces for individuals to engage in healing through embodied experiences, fostering a sense of self-acceptance and liberation.

Furthermore, Colin advocates for the acceptance of diverse sexual experiences. His inclusive approach ensures that individuals from various backgrounds, identities, and orientations feel represented and validated. By promoting a culture of acceptance, he contributes to the broader narrative of breaking down stigmas and challenging societal norms that can be restrictive and harmful to individuals exploring their sexuality.

Colin’s commitment to the exploration of sexuality is evident in his promotion of a sex-positive and curiosity-driven mindset. He encourages individuals to embrace their desires, preferences, and fantasies without judgment. This exploration, guided by somatic principles, allows individuals to navigate their own sexual landscapes authentically, fostering a sense of empowerment and agency in their intimate lives. In conclusion,

Colin’s nomination as Somatic Sexologist of the Year reflects his exceptional contributions to the field, particularly in representing the interconnected aspects of intimacy, healing, acceptance, and exploration through sex and relationships. His innovative approach has not only expanded the horizons of somatic sexology but has also positively impacted individuals on their journeys toward a more fulfilling and authentic sexual well-being.

Awarding him this title would recognize not only his past achievements but also the transformative potential of somatic sexology in fostering a more holistic and empowered approach to sexuality.