Sex & Relationship Engineer, Psychosensual Therapist,
Teacher of Enhanced Sexual Performance & Mental Wellness
mobile; 0044 (0) 7966522696
Website 1; https://www.intimacymatters.co.uk
Website 2; https://www.intimatetutorials.com
Colin is a member of The Association of Somatic & Integrative Sexologists
I have been working as a practitioner & teacher of sexual wellness and fulfilment since 2005. I have helped over 8000 men, women, and couples improve their sexual confidence and personal and intimate lifestyles. I believe that a person’s sexuality is a foundation stone of what makes us who we are, and if this foundation stone is not secure, then the whole sense of self can be impacted. I take a humanistic approach to my work by incorporating the emotional, biological, anthropological, and sexual aspects of arousal. I see myself as a practitioner, sex educator and general problem solver in all things sex and relationship related. This website is very comprehensive, and it gives details on treatments, coaching, classes, group workshops, sex-positive events and news and articles. I recommend you take some time to browse through the pages. But also don’t hesitate to get in contact if you have any questions.
I work with single women, men and couples of any age and orientation. To list a few of the more frequent aspects I help people with, they include; relationship conflict, finding the right partner, reawakening one’s sex life, sexual frustration, lack of sexual experience, sexual performance challenges (inability to orgasm, erectile issues), fear of sex, experiencing sexual complacency in a relationship, and particularly for women exploding libido or low libido.
I created Intimacy Matters in 2012, and since then, I have helped over 6000 people in many aspects of their relationships and sexuality. My approach to sex and intimacy is best described as humanistic, and I look at the biological, psychological, social, anthropological and erotic influences behind our sensual desires, curiosities and fears. My treatments include sensual massage, psychosensual treatments, and relationship counselling, and I run individual training and group workshops to enhance sexual confidence and foreplay knowledge and skills. I give public and online Zoom talks and run my own social events.
I am based in Chelsea Central London SW3 , UK.
Colin’s Training and Qualifications
Association of Natural Medicine – Therapeutic Massage Anatomy & Physiology – 1993
Co-Active Life Coaching Level 2 – 1998
Certified (2 years) in Psychosexual & Relationship Therapy – 2010
Imago Relationship Educator – The Imago Institute – 2012
Cert in NLP & Hypnotherapy – Contemporary College of Therapeutic Studies – 2013
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Colin’s Personal Details
- Height – 6ft
- Weight – 88Kg
- Gender – Male
- Build – Muscular
- Eyes – Blue
- Nationality – British
- Ethnicity – Caucasian
- Location – Chelsea Central London
- Sexuality – Heteroflexible
- Latest all-clear STI test July 2023
- Pronouns – He/him
- Status – Divorced and now partnered nine years with a female
- Children – Five, all aged over 21
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The question I am asked most often is….
‘How did you get to do this type of work’?
I was born in Beckenham, Kent, London UK, I am British but with London and Irish ancestry. In the early 1960s, my parents moved to the South West to take on a remarkable and well-known family holiday hotel in Salcombe, South Devon. The Gara Rock Hotel was a 130-bed hotel I grew up in. It was probably one of the most stunning coastal locations in the UK, overlooking miles of unspoilt coastline.
Consequently, I interacted with various people from a young age, including guests, suppliers, other kids and parents. In many ways, it was a little like Fawlty Towers but on a larger scale. At 22, I became Managing Director after my parents’ retirement. I was well equipped for the role, having experienced all aspects of running the business. At various times up to my 42nd birthday as Managing Director, I took on multiple roles, including day-to-day management, food and beverage buyer, HR for up to 40 staff, entertainment host, relief chef, barman, waiter, receptionist, and even in the closed winter months, plumber and decorator. In short, my interpersonal skills and ability to relate to people became second nature. I can now offer newcomers to Intimacy Matters a warm welcome and put them at ease in this unfamiliar situation.
In 2002, I left the hospitality industry and tried to take on a conventional 9 to 5 job. I quickly discovered that working for someone else was not for me. I embarked on a field of study which has become a lifelong passion. I trained as a life coach and therapeutic masseur at The Association of Natural Medicine in Totnes, Devon. Then I undertook a 2-year training in Psychosexual and Relationship Therapy at Regent’s College in London. Further training included a certificated Imago Educator and foundation training in NLP and Hypnotherapy. Armed with my certificates, I was confident I could pursue a career that enabled me to help people and use my unique combination of innate skills.
I moved to London in 2005 and began working as a Sensual Massage Therapist and Sexual Performance and Relationship Mentor. I immediately became aware that many men and women needed discreet, practical support and guidance in their sex lives. These revelations led me to start Singles and Couples Therapy, which combined talk therapy with sensual bodywork.
My business expanded rapidly, solely on the strength of recommendations by satisfied clients. Since 2005, 8000 men and women have used my services. Furthermore, the past decade has been extremely rewarding for me personally and professionally. In addition to providing high-quality services, I’ve gained profound insight and understanding of various psychosexual issues. I am often invited to take part in podcasts and Zoom presentations.
Several themes emerged: the complexities of creating intimacy, building fulfilling relationships and the impact of touch in our daily lives. I noticed that many of my clients struggled to feel isolated or frustrated. Others grappled with self-inflicted criticism and judgmental or ignorant attitudes cultivated in early childhood. My clients’ stories touched me, and I wanted to find meaningful strategies to help them.
I decided my approach to teaching alternative sexual education would have to be down-to-earth, straightforward and open. I am an educator, teacher and mentor on sexual issues. I’ve created a discreet and welcoming environment that allows people to discuss their psychosexual concerns and receive the practical tools to tap into their innate sensuality.
I‘m a versatile trainer and teacher. My experience is based on anecdotal evidence, personal insights and academic study. I share my message across various forums: as a massage therapist, a sex mentor or consultant, or when speaking at an event or leading a special interest workshop.
I live and work in Chelsea Central London, but I am also available to travel in the UK and abroad to see clients and run workshops.
I host Intimacy Matters Presents, an event for members and guests held at Home House and Century Club, two of London’s premier private members’ clubs in Marylebone and Soho.
I have been featured in the national media – including the BBC World Service, Channel 5, Mail Online, Cosmopolitan, Daily Mirror, I-News, The Times, The Independent and Reveal magazine.
I give regular public talks on topics related to sex and relationships through the Funzing community.
In December 2018, I was featured in the Channel 5 documentary ‘The Sex Business’ series 2 episode 3 ‘Orgasm on Sale’ profiling practitioners who work with women.
I have five adult children (two sons and three daughters) from my 17-year marriage. I have been in a 9-year relationship with my partner Clare, my best friend, compatriot, lover and guide. We’re an outgoing and sociable couple who enjoy attending gatherings, talks, restaurants and the theatre. I am health conscious and maintain an active lifestyle by swimming regularly, playing tennis, squash, and skiing.
COLIN TALKS SEX
In this 10-minute video interview (15/2/18) recorded for the mental health resource charity website, Head Talks Colin advocates that healthy physical and mental well-being must include a fulfilling sex life, where sexual satisfaction and sensual intimacy can flourish freely without judgement or cultural constraints.
Interview with Rebecca Dakin – The Great British Sexpert
Rebecca visits Colin for her own Absolute Massage treatment and here is her video discussing her experience.
Colin’s treatments are featured in this Cosmopolitan Podcast
Cosmopolitan Podcast Episode 1 – featuring Colin’s treatments for women.
We meet Cee Cee, a woman who gets regular Absolute orgasmic massages because she wants to build up her confidence and gain more sexual experience.
Broadcaster Jackie Walker talks to Colin about massage & sensuality.
Part 1 – Interview with Colin
Part 2 – What women need to know
Part 3 – Emotional Release
Colins Podcasts & Youtube Channel
Training & Qualifications
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