Questions & Answers

Frequently Asked Questions

General Questions:

What is a sensual massage?

A sensual massage is given with a genuine sense of care and intimacy – involving relaxation, pleasure and arousal of the body. Sensual massage offers both physical and emotional benefits and takes a humanistic approach to sensual and erotic arousal. It focuses on providing the receiver with an authentic, full-body therapeutic massage that combines traditional massage strokes with intentionally arousing techniques. These are aimed at slowly relaxing the receiver while simultaneously arousing them. Other than occasional instructions, the massage is usually given in silence, but natural sounds of arousal are encouraged. The sensual massage usually leads to orgasm, but without any pressure or expectation to do so. As well as being pleasurable, the massage can also help people with sexual performance challenges, fears around intimacy, loss of libido, sexual frustration and – if bringing in a female masseur in a four hands massage – same-sex intimacy exploration. The sensual masseurs approach this treatment with genuine care and integrity.

Colin offers various types of sensual massage.

For Women – The Absolute Massage , The Intimacy Massage and the Psychosensual Treatment.

For Men – The Premium, Superior and Standard and the Psychosensual Treatment

For Couples – The Watch & Enjoy, The Watch & Touch, The Give With Men, The Tandem and The Psychosensual Treatment

How can I be sure I won’t experience something I don’t want or like?

Whether taking the Psychosensual, Absolute or Intimacy Massage, female clients must complete the Authorisation & Request Form before the first appointment. This form enables female clients to indicate any areas they want me to focus on and to clarify their boundaries, preferences, and desires for treatment. With its zero-to-ten scoring section, the Authorisation & Request Form enables you to create your ideal experience. Scoring ten means you definitely want something included; scoring zero means you don’t like this included, with three, five and eight as levels to help you indicate what type and intensity of erotic arousal you wish to explore. The form also serves as legal authority for me to deliver this message to you.

How can I ensure confidentiality and discretion?

I have been giving sensual massages for 18 years and particularly to women for nine years. The women who come to me do so for many reasons, but almost all require discretion and confidentiality. Some women come from relationships without their partner’s knowledge. Others’ confidentiality concerns their work. For some women, it is because they are well known in the media or entertainment worlds, and of course, some come from a culture or belief system that restricts their sexuality. I have even seen royalty (not from the UK! ) A client can give me a false name and does not need to tell me anything they do not want to. If I meet a client by chance in public, I would ignore them unless they speak to me first. I never meet clients socially unless they attend an event or talk I may be giving.

Where are you located?

My treatment studio is located in Sloane Square, Chelsea, SW1X 9DE, Central London.

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The full address will be given on confirmation of your appointment.

Do you give home or hotel visits?

Occasionally, but only for women, couples or those with disabilities, I am happy to consider coming to your location (hotel or home) if it is located within zone 1 or 2 in central London. Travel costs and extra time will be charged. For appointments further afield, I would need to work out a rate for you.

Do you have disabled access?

Yes. The treatment room, shower, and toilet are on the ground floor, making them suitable for those with walking disabilities. There is one step into the building from the outside.

I have had a Tantric massage before or heard of it; is this the same?

It is similar in that it allows you to explore your sexual and sensual energies safely and discreetly. However, I prefer to describe my approach as humanistic, since this experience focuses on us as sensual and sexual beings rather than spiritual. The massage is about taking us back to our deepest feelings of intimacy, sensuality and arousal, and does not include any spiritual aspects such as ritual, breathing exercises or meditation.

Can I cancel my appointment?

Yes, you can cancel anytime, but if cancelled up to 24 hours before, there is no charge. If within 24 hours, you pay the full fee, and it is held as payment for an alternative date or to cancel altogether; a 50% charge applies.

Do you have any testimonials or feedback from previous clients I can read?

Yes, I have over 260 5-star reviews on the Ekomi review site. Many of them were given by women and couples.

I also have a very comprehensive Testimonials page. These were given freely and cover a period of years, from 2012 to the present day.

I am nervous. What can you tell me to make me feel calmer?

Uncertain about which treatment to choose. What might be my next step? I offer every first-time client the option of calling me for a free 15-minute phone chat. During this call, you can ask me any questions and explain why you want to come in for an appointment. Together, we can figure out the best option for you. To arrange this call, just text or WhatsApp me on 07966 522 696.

Can I view an example of the treatments?

Yes, if you register in Intimacy X, you can view a detailed 10-minute demonstration of the different elements of the Absolute massage being given. To register in Intimacy X [Click here]

Can I spread my payments for a single or a series of appointments?

Yes, you can. I offer payment options and purchasing hours with up to a 40% discount. The hours purchased can be used over a full year. [click here]

Do you offer discounts for low-income customers?

I want everyone to have access to sensual massage so I will do my best to accommodate your budget. If you are unemployed, I need proof of your status to give a discount. You will need to fit in with my available times for the appointment, which are usually mornings between 9 am and 1 pm

Do you offer better rates for regular treatments?

Yes, please check out the payment plans. [click here]

Questions about the content of the massage:

Most of the answers below apply to the Absolute but answers that are NOT relevant to the Intimacy Massage (less intimate than the Absolute and is surface arousal only) are asterisked below (*) in red.

What are the differences between the Women’s Absolute and the Exploration and Intimacy Massages?

The Absolute massage is the ultimate erotic massage, and completing the Absolute Authorisation & Request Form can be tailored to your requirements. Generally, clients like to include both external and internal stimulation, but this massage can also include specific erotic arousal that a client may want to explore. The Exploration massage includes external clitoral and internal vaginal stimulation and is more intense than the Intimacy massage but less expensive than the Absolute massage. The Intimacy Massage is the lightest massage given in its arousing content and only includes the surface of body arousal ( clitoral and nipple) it is also only 60 minutes in length.

If I wanted you to, would you undress me before the massage?

No, after meeting you and a brief conversation, I leave you to undress and take a shower. I return to the room once you are lying on the treatment bed.

Do you give body-to-body contact?

The massage by nature involves some body-to-body contact, as well as using my hands, I also use my arms, elbows and if appropriate, my body weight, although this can be adjusted to suit your comfort.*

What oils do you use?

I use unscented grapeseed oil and, at times, a standard water-based lubricant cream. If you have any allergies or prefer a particular type of oil or lubricant, please let me know in advance and bring some along. I cannot give a dry massage.

What communication methods are there for identifying my boundaries?

I ask that you complete the Authorisation & Request Form before you come for treatment. Of course, at any time during the massage you can speak to me to say if you have something particular to inform me to stop something. Still, for those who prefer not to talk, I also have a hand-holding system during the massage when you can communicate that you are feeling good by squeezing my hand when I hold yours or at any time, waving it to say ‘stop what you are doing’ .

Are you clothed when giving the massage?

I begin the massage fully clothed in light cotton trousers and a polo shirt, and then become topless partway through. I can be naked upon request.

Can I touch you during the massage?

The nature of this massage is about intimacy and trust – ultimately, it’s up to you. For some people, it’s essential to receive touch without having to reciprocate, while others prefer to give touch. The choice is yours and can be indicated on the Authorisation & Request Form.

How is vaginal stimulation given to women?

This is given with hands and fingers or, if requested, with a sex toy. Grapeseed oil or water-based lubrications are used. You are welcome to bring your own oil and lubrication if you prefer. The type and intensity of both the clitoral and vaginal stimulation can be indicated when you complete the Authorisation & Request form. Clitoral stimulation is given in phases 2 & 3 of the massage with vaginal stimulation (both external and internal) given in phases 3 & 4. You guide the depth and intensity of the vaginal stimulation, but I aim to follow your responses as the massage progresses.

Can I talk to you before or during the massage?

Of course, you can. On arrival, if you feel it helps, we can chat about the treatment for a few minutes before you take a shower, and at the beginning of the massage, it’s also fine to talk. Once the massage is underway, however, it’s best to refrain from conversation and use hand-holding to communicate how you feel. I will explain this when you get here.

Do you kiss during the massage?

I make quite a bit of noise when I am turned on – is that a problem?

Not at all. Women are programmed to make noise when aroused; it is the female mating call. I encourage you to be as vocal as you like and to express your pleasure however you like. As a man and your masseur, I do my best to make it as good for you as possible. The more you respond, the more I can confidently give.

I am concerned that when turned on, I might cross your boundaries.

Erotic stimulation between two people in whatever circumstances relies on good communication. If there is something you feel you want to do or say, then go ahead, as I won’t be offended. If it falls beyond my personal and professional boundaries, I will gently say so.

Is anal stimulation an option?

Again, this can be indicated by the Authorisation & Request form, stating your preference for external only, internal or not to be included. *

Will you use any toys or vibrators on me?

This is your choice, and I have several vibrators, but I only bring them into the massage if the client has requested the use. You can also bring your own.

Can you include any fetish or role-play?

I am happy to include only light domination. I do not role-play.

Will you include penetrative sex in the massage?

No. I do not have penetrative sex. All stimulation is given as described above and can be reconfirmed in type and intensity on the Authorisation & Request Form.

Are you healthy?

Yes, I take regular sexual health checks, and since this is my main work, I always maintain a high level of personal health and hygiene. I expect this from my clients, too. I also have a female partner who regularly tests. The latest all-clear STI test is January 2024

Do I need to be healthy?

Absolutely. You should not attend any appointment, training or workshops if you are showing any symptoms of fever or any other conditions that may be contagious.

Do not attend a sensual massage if you suffer from:-

Extreme anxiety
Have any symptoms of flu or a virus
Have excessively high blood pressure
Are you experiencing any sexually transmitted diseases
Have a heart condition
Have a severe skin condition
Have any open cuts
Have you had any broken bones

Do you allow poppers?

No, I do not see clients who are using poppers or who are under the influence of alcohol or drugs.

Do you give a four-hand massage?

Yes, I can arrange a four hands massage with either another male or a female masseur – see 4 hands options under 4 hands treatments